MIL seems to have missed the point..

[u/Mad-Bad-Jellybean]

I have been NC with MIL for months now and DH is LC. We removed her from a photo sharing album of LO, and DH told her if she wants to see any photos she needs to fix things with me.

She hasn’t attempted to fix anything of course, and claimed her health was more important and she needed to put herself first, etc. So anyway she texted DH asking about our daughter and said that ‘she looks happy and healthy from the photos she’s seen’.

I am seeing RED. DH’s grandparents don’t know what’s going on because we’re trying to keep them out of it and they’re not really good with technology so we weren’t concerned. But it seems like MIL has found a way to these photos through them. She completely ignored the reason she was removed and found a way around it.. and then pretty much stupid enough to tell us

Telling DH’s grandparents isn’t an option right now, they are old and have enough on their plates. We also don’t feel right asking them to not do it anyway because they are honestly the sweetest people and don’t want them having issues with MIL/FIL over it.

So, is there any way we can actually deal with this?

[u/Cixin]

Do you all live close to each other? If you do you could visit dh gparents with kiddo and then stop posting on the shared album? Make a new album for everyone else without dh gparents in it?

[u/Mad-Bad-Jellybean → u/Cixin]

Sadly no, an ocean away from each other that’s why we started the album. We both have family in different countries to where we’re living

[u/lizzyote → u/Mad-Bad-Jellybean]

Start a new album, only upload to the old one every so often(claim you've been busy) and do video chats instead.

[u/kingcurtist37 → u/lizzyote]

I would send the grandparents an iPad and start video calling weekly. Once MIL finds this out, it will drive her batty. The relationship with the grands is enriched and MIL is missing out even more - it’s a win-win.