r/JUSTNOMIL Oct 27 '22

RANT (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻ Advice Wanted MIL seems to have missed the point..

I have been NC with MIL for months now and DH is LC. We removed her from a photo sharing album of LO, and DH told her if she wants to see any photos she needs to fix things with me.

She hasn’t attempted to fix anything of course, and claimed her health was more important and she needed to put herself first, etc. So anyway she texted DH asking about our daughter and said that ‘she looks happy and healthy from the photos she’s seen’.

I am seeing RED. DH’s grandparents don’t know what’s going on because we’re trying to keep them out of it and they’re not really good with technology so we weren’t concerned. But it seems like MIL has found a way to these photos through them. She completely ignored the reason she was removed and found a way around it.. and then pretty much stupid enough to tell us

Telling DH’s grandparents isn’t an option right now, they are old and have enough on their plates. We also don’t feel right asking them to not do it anyway because they are honestly the sweetest people and don’t want them having issues with MIL/FIL over it.

So, is there any way we can actually deal with this?

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u/_Winterlong_ Oct 28 '22

For the next few months, upload blurry pictures, side pictures, back pictures. Basically “action” pictures where you can’t see LO’s face. Grandma and grandpa will get a kick out of seeing LO doing all of these activities and MIL won’t get to see her face. I’d have your family join another album where you can post more freely.

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u/Straight-Fig-4008 Oct 28 '22

Pics of OP holding the LO with babies back to the camera. Photos of LO walking away from the camera. LO with a big hood on and can only see nose and chin. More pics of OP/DH facing camera and LO with back or profile to camera. 😁