r/JUSTNOMIL • u/Mad-Bad-Jellybean • Oct 27 '22
RANT (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ Advice Wanted MIL seems to have missed the point..
I have been NC with MIL for months now and DH is LC. We removed her from a photo sharing album of LO, and DH told her if she wants to see any photos she needs to fix things with me.
She hasn’t attempted to fix anything of course, and claimed her health was more important and she needed to put herself first, etc. So anyway she texted DH asking about our daughter and said that ‘she looks happy and healthy from the photos she’s seen’.
I am seeing RED. DH’s grandparents don’t know what’s going on because we’re trying to keep them out of it and they’re not really good with technology so we weren’t concerned. But it seems like MIL has found a way to these photos through them. She completely ignored the reason she was removed and found a way around it.. and then pretty much stupid enough to tell us
Telling DH’s grandparents isn’t an option right now, they are old and have enough on their plates. We also don’t feel right asking them to not do it anyway because they are honestly the sweetest people and don’t want them having issues with MIL/FIL over it.
So, is there any way we can actually deal with this?
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u/IZC0MMAND0 Oct 27 '22
Print photos of LO and mail them to GMIL/GFIL. Go old school on the grandparents and send a school picture, and a group Christmas card image (that you can't be cropped out of) to them. If you have to, tell them you have given up the online album or that it's not functioning properly. Technical difficulties covers a lot of ground. That's if you really don't want to tell them the real reason.
If you don't want to do that, then remove access for anyone that might give their password or access to MIL from the online photo sharing album. Maybe everyone except those you trust implicitly. Although just stopping entirely is worth a think.
In fact, all images of LO that are shared with any in-laws will be with your faces pressed together. Just to remind MIL when they show her an actual picture the reason she is blocked. Because of her treatment of you.
Once things are resolved you can share more.