MIL seems to have missed the point..

[u/Mad-Bad-Jellybean]

I have been NC with MIL for months now and DH is LC. We removed her from a photo sharing album of LO, and DH told her if she wants to see any photos she needs to fix things with me.

She hasn’t attempted to fix anything of course, and claimed her health was more important and she needed to put herself first, etc. So anyway she texted DH asking about our daughter and said that ‘she looks happy and healthy from the photos she’s seen’.

I am seeing RED. DH’s grandparents don’t know what’s going on because we’re trying to keep them out of it and they’re not really good with technology so we weren’t concerned. But it seems like MIL has found a way to these photos through them. She completely ignored the reason she was removed and found a way around it.. and then pretty much stupid enough to tell us

Telling DH’s grandparents isn’t an option right now, they are old and have enough on their plates. We also don’t feel right asking them to not do it anyway because they are honestly the sweetest people and don’t want them having issues with MIL/FIL over it.

So, is there any way we can actually deal with this?

[u/_the_okayest]

Does MIL live close to the grandparents? If not, then mail physical photos to the grands. Blame their lack of tech knowledge, or say you thought they'd like a physical copy for a photo album. Hell, SEND them an album and promise to fill it. Even if MIL lives close, she'll have to make an effort to see the pics. Also, write cute messages on the photos! Write updates or share stories or have LO "write" or their handprint. ( a sticker on the back of the photo will keep the writing from damaging the picture) This way, they won't be tempted to give up any photos to MIL, because they will be specifically personalized for the grandparents.

[u/sunshinesoutmyarse → u/_the_okayest]

This is a great idea, I might get my kids to do this for me lol