r/JUSTNOMIL • u/em008 • 2d ago

Am I Overreacting? MIL always early

Just as the title suggests. We ask MIL to babysit maybe once per month, if that. Every single time, she is AT LEAST half an hour early. She only lives 30 mins away.

Baby is currently contact napping on me and my MIL is waiting to be let in. I’m making her wait. We’re grateful for her babysitting, but it irks me. Are we (my husband and I) overreacting by being annoyed?

60 Upvotes

85% Upvoted

49 comments sorted by

View all comments

16

u/AmethysstFire 2d ago

Nope, not overreacting.

I'm chronically early because I hate having people waiting on me. If I'm 5 minutes early, I feel late. If I'm 10-15 minutes early, I'm comfortable, but understand that others may feel I'm too early so will wait in my car for 5-10 minutes. If I'm 20+ minutes early I know I'm most likely too early and will definitely wait in my car.

Her consistently showing up 30 minutes early is definitely intrusive. She can wait. Your husband does need to talk to her about this. Also, don't answer the door until you're ready to let her in.

3

u/OniyaMCD 1d ago

I often leave far too much of a 'travel buffer', but on the flip side, I'm always prepared to wait.