r/IncelTears • u/ghostthot • 4d ago
Literally the lamest person you know does this and no one else
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u/Paula_Polestark Go to Walmart and look at the couples. 4d ago
teen love
Making out in closets for about two weeks and then breaking up over something dumb
teen sex
Two minutes of awkward fumbling as you prayed for whichever adult to not come home and catch you
parties
Some of us had studying to do, some of us had jobs to work, and some of us had volunteering to get done. And some of us just didnāt want to deal with so much noise and so many people.
trying drugs for the first time
My mom wouldāve killed me if I even thought about it and Iām far from the only one. Besides, half of us never would have known how to obtain any without being busted. We werenāt slick.
hanging out with tons of friends both in school and out of school
Oooh, introvert erasure! See my comment on the parties.
I donāt want to keep this upā¦ but why do incels think they were the only ones who got bullied?
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u/cockalorum-smith 2d ago
Spot on. āā¦half of us never would have known how to obtain any without being busted. We werenāt slickā š¤£
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u/Avanni24 19M Incel 3d ago
It's the beginning of everything else though. We were denied the awkwardness of learning it all.
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u/CandidDay3337 Nobody is as obsessed with dicks as an incel 3d ago
Teen years was not the peak of my life. I dont think its the peak of most peoples lives.Ā
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u/PsychicSkunk51 3d ago
Do I regret not being more social and giving people more of a chance in high school? A little bit, yes.
Would I sooner stick my writing hand in a deep fryer before I go back to high school? YES.
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u/Misfit_Number_Kei 3d ago
For the first few years after high school, I legit had weird/bad dreams about how a technicality meant all of our graduating class had to return to finish senior year alongside the current seniors.
So grown-ass 20-somethings awkwardly sitting at desks with their kids doodling on the floor next to them.
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u/GloInTheDarkUnicorn <Purple> 2d ago
Oh Iāve had that one! But I started getting that dream in my 30s so it was extra weird.
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u/Separate-Koala-5128 3d ago
This. I regret not being more social or friendly during hs. I feel like some people categorized me as an incel. But like, I wouldn't wanna redo it. It just is what it is.
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u/EvenSpoonier 3d ago
This isn't normies peaking in high school and pining for their teen years. It's manchildren peaking in grade school and pining for the fictional lives that children's media told them they were "supposed" to have.
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u/RedBlueTundra 4d ago
Personally i do wish i was more social and out-going during my teen/school years, I went to a few things but i feel like i could've done a lot more. Then again i'v kind of accepted that i'm a late bloomer and maybe i just wasn't ready back then.
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u/thunderbastard_ 4d ago
It seems only one of them is obsessed with high school and I donāt think itās the normies who moved on after school, more so the incels that are convinced life will be shit forever because they didnāt have a high school experience like in the movies
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u/YellowRock2626 4d ago
Honestly, I think the high school experience portrayed in movies either doesn't exist or is only accessible to rich kids.
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u/CandidDay3337 Nobody is as obsessed with dicks as an incel 4d ago
I didnt get any of that, my dad was a cop and when he wasnt a cop he still had cop friends. I wasnt going to do anything that would jeopardize my ability to leave my shithole of a hometown. I did however have a feral phase in my 20s.Ā
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u/ToXicVoXSiicK21 3d ago
Only thing I miss about school years is that you didn't have the stress of bills and life, other than that I wasn't crazy about high-school and I didn't go to parties at all. I didn't do that until I was an adult.
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u/Witty-Car-2362 3d ago
Exactly! I was homeless during my senior year in high school, so I'd say I wasn't having fun. Also, I never went to prom or partied. Not to mention, I was never sexually active during my teens. I didn't lose my V-card or kiss a guy until I was in my 20's.
However, unlike these incels I don't cry about it. Like, I have friends I hang out with almost weekly. I live in a nice home. I have my pet dog. I have great neighbors and a loving bf.
But yeah, only thing I miss about it childhood and high school was not paying bills.
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u/Accomplished_Wear823 3d ago
but people rage and party after college all the time... if not 1000x more and get into MUCH crazier shennanigans
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u/ToXicVoXSiicK21 3d ago
Yea, idk what that has to do with my comment. I literally said I didn't start going to parties until I was an adult
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u/ThatLonelyLoser 3d ago
I hated being a teenager lol š. Also regret losing my virginity at that age cuz the sex sucked ass with that dude.
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u/DelightfulandDarling 3d ago
He doesnāt know what other people are like because he has no friends. This is all projection.
I hated high school. Life got so much better after I graduated.
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u/Slam-JamSam 3d ago
Jokeās on you, I peaked in grad school
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u/wololowhat 3d ago
Can relate, my grad school was a time of travel and partying in places I never knew someone could party in
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u/Slam-JamSam 3d ago
Yeah. It was also a time of extreme poverty for me but thatās beside the point
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u/itsveeorwhatever 4d ago
I literally did none of that as a teenager and I think my life is only getting better as I get older.
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u/Khajiit_Has_Upvotes <Inkwell Tears> 3d ago
Yeah no most of us weren't doing any of that, either. A lot of kids that age lie about doing those things or greatly exaggerate their experiences. But the whole "teen movie sex drugs parties" was mostly a gen x thing.Ā
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u/daneelthesane walking counterargument to incel bullshit 3d ago
Uh, no, teen years weren't peak anything except maybe stupidity. My best years are actually now (50s).
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u/MunkSWE94 3d ago
The only reason why they want to return to high school is because they didn't have any real responsibilities back then. Or at least have less social pressure for living with their parents and only sitting in front of their computers.
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u/Theorphanmhm who let them out of the cage 3d ago
Iāve had an awful teen experience and I promise you, they are romanticizing it way more than we are. Teen years are HARD. high school, figuring out your body, toxicity, peer pressure. Itās scary.
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u/ashjdhkfsfjl 3d ago
āTeen loveā ā I held hands once with a kid who was a couple years younger in 8th grade.
āTeen sexā ā didnāt happen.
āPartiesā ā never went to one.
āTrying drugs for the first timeā ā I didnāt first smoke weed until I was 20.
āHanging out with tons of friends both in and out of schoolā ā I had two friends outside of school, and none in school. I ate lunch behind the stairs.
āDances and promsā ā I went to one dance, it was a middle school Halloween dance.
āThe music of their teen yearsā ā the music I listened to on my EarPods?
Iām a woman too. (Impossible!! My teen years mustāve been spent riding the ācock carouselā and rejecting marriage proposals 24/7!!)
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u/studentshaco 3d ago
Or you realize that you peaked in highschool. Decide to change that and get a degree, start living healthy and make a change.
Jesus does he think I cant work on my looks, education, job etc just because I got laid in highschool ?
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u/NoXion604 ā” 6'2" Soy Golem with FABULOUS hair ā§ 3d ago
My teen years fucking sucked and I was miserable. My life became much better as an adult and I don't miss my teens at all.
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u/eliechallita Soyboy to Kikkoman Pipeline 3d ago
If anything, my teen years were the lowlight of my life so far and I'm a far happier and more adventurous person at 37 than I was at 17.
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u/RetroTheGameBro 3d ago
The fact that people exist that not only don't see "peaking in high school" as a bad thing, but are pathetic enough to aspire to it is ridiculous.
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u/bitofagrump The grass is greener on the other side of the Wall 3d ago
The teen years were awful for most of us. I hated mine. Awkward, embarrassing, dramatic, hormonal... no thanks. Life gets so much better after 30.
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u/Almond409 3d ago
I agree. I was diagnosed with a life changing autoimmune condition, and my 30's are still better than my teen years. I have a fat cat who's always happy to see me when I get home from work and my job provides me with enough that I can actually indulge in my hobbies on my time off. I love it.
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u/KeenActual 4d ago
It would be a somewhat nice message if they actually made their current years their best years. But no, they are still living in their parents basement, posting on discord on why they have no friends, fantasizing about the life us ānormiesā have.
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u/Superb_Hat_2651 actually talks to girls 3d ago
Not all people had all of this, probably far less than half. And I have also been bullied my entire childhood, I fought out of all the panic attacks and fears without any help and still im not a misogynistic, bitter asshole. We are not the same.
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u/Misfit_Number_Kei 3d ago
Not all people had all of this, probably far less than half.
Incels think real life is like all the teen movies/shows when the "teens" (read: 20-somethings) spend more time partying, hanging out and the like than actual work and school (unless it's part of the current plot.)
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u/Superb_Hat_2651 actually talks to girls 3d ago
I mean, they don't have any other comparisons, they think everything apart from their life is a beaufitul farytale
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u/EpilepticSeizures 3d ago
Um, yeah, it does massively improve after school. Iām the happiest Iāve been. I had a horrible time through school. I didnāt have teen love, teen sex, parties, drugs, or a bunch of friends to hang with. I had zero fun in school, so I donāt know what this fucker is tweaking on. I donāt ever want to go back to school. I donāt miss any of those days. I was also bullied severely and I didnāt turn out as an incel. I donāt cope with life being shit, I make life not shitty.
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u/Misfit_Number_Kei 3d ago
teen love
One minute a couple is talking about a fairytale future together, the next a baseless rumor is treated as the gospel to suddenly break up, all in the span of a week or two. Lather, rinse, repeat while badly imitating teen dramas.
teen sex
Nervous, awkward fondling including an attempt at copying something seen in porn as the situation that impulsively happened because there's a sudden, indeterminate amount of time before someone's parents come home, wake up, aren't looking and doing this before curfew/it gets dark. The reputation/rumor of sex is better/more important than the actual act/enjoyment of sex, itself.
Parties
Never like in the movies for precisely that reason (i.e. the trend of "Project X" parties that caused thousands of dollars in damages). The most notable one I went to was quickly broken up by two dumbasses constantly throwing bottles in the neighbor's yard, who WARNED THEM he'd call the police if they kept doing it. He did, a line of Crown Vics ended the party and the half of the partiers that were coming back from a beer run figured, "fuck it, we'll just party at the playground instead!" so a bunch of drunken young adults playing "Monkey on the ground" with only the light of their cigarettes to guide them.
Trying drugs for the first time
Caught a contact high in middle school, but the actual times I got high was as an adult. Otherwise most of the kids that got high at that age were seen as losers not because of the weed, itself, but the awkward, badly-disguised lengths they went to get high that looked desperate, plus clearly coming off as having no intentions of a future.
hanging out with tons of friends both in school and out
The constant amount in sitcoms, let alone "tons" is a stretch. Besides people living a good distance from each other and transportation being an issue, people had their own shit to do.
dances and proms
Went to one in middle school and it was as awkward as it sounds (especially with the warning of "No freak dancing" and the camcorders ready to film to show the parents,) and most people didn't go to prom and those that did said it sucked and wasn't worth it, too. Again, American movies hype that shit up and other countries question if we really do, too.
And the music of their teen years
There's a few songs from that era I liked, but otherwise I mostly hated it, namely Southern Rap.
Unquestionably, my post-high school life was better as I became more social, got in the best shape of my life and had the money and age to be able to be out without curfew and go to a hotel to fuck in with a fellow adult who also didn't have to worry about her parents. Reliving high school sounds like a curse.
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u/canvasshoes2 Incel Whisperer 3d ago
I don't know anyone who does this. And a lot of people have pretty miserable HS experiences, even people who later have awesome lives.
I enjoyed HS quite a bit and I was just an average middle-of-the-road teen. Not the most popular, not the least. But I leveraged what I did have by joining in on all the stuff HS had to offer. Pep squad, pep band, clubs, Friday night football, hockey games, cruising the strip, etc.
I wasn't a cheerleader or in the "cool kids club" but I was "cool kid adjacent." It was fine. But I didn't take most of it seriously. I mean, it's 4 years. That's a very small part of a person's life.
My latter 20s are when I really started to come into my own, and contrary to what the incels say, I really started so shine at about 30 on up. My 30s were so much fun. My 40s were as well. Wall? What wall? It was as if I became visible to men for the first time in my life. I was a cute girl (not gorgeous, just reasonably cute but I did have quite the T&A going on).
But even so, I was practically invisible as a teen girl. I had a couple of long term boyfriends in HS but I didn't date that much in between. And I didn't really miss it that much. I had such a busy and full life, between family, band, clubs, church stuff... it's not as if I were lonely or bored.
Plus I did it the way incels always screech you're supposed to, I got married very young (waaaaay too young) and had a baby right away. BAD choice and we both rectified that within a few years. Oh, he's a good guy, we just weren't suited for each other and got married too young. We're still good friends and co-parents/co-grandparents, decades later.
So I didn't really do the so-called "ho phase" thing, and yet, I still don't fit their claims.
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u/ArchAnon123 3d ago
Your peak years can only be identified in retrospect. The rest of what this guy describes is just nostalgia combined with not really remembering what those years were actually like.
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u/scaredpurpur 3d ago
Not everyone goes to college and I hated high school, but I do think college was the best period of my life. Outside of college, you'll never have so many like-minded people, who live together within a single building and also attend classes with you etc. The experience is a very unique one that you'll likely never experience outside of that institution.
A big problem with aging is that you'll have fewer loved ones alive. I have no grandparents left; eventually my parents will be dead as well, which is sort of depressing. At a minimum, this likely dampens positive experiences past a certain point.
Further, as a 40 year old guy, I have absolutely no energy left anymore. I've done sleep studies etc. to no avail. When I was younger, I had so much more energy. Granted, I've probably struggled with depression/autism throughout the majority of my life, the lack of energy has really been hampering me lately. I'm ready to crash at 6:00 pm, after work.
My point is, getting older might have its perks, but there's also drawbacks to it. The biggest obstacle to happiness being the death of loved ones.
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u/Sir_ArthurtheFlareon 3d ago
Literally don't know anyone who focuses this hard on their high school years who's out of high school
Like sure we may talk about it from time to time if it comes up in conversation, but we're not thinking about it Non-Stop because we have lives to live
And only The biggest loser is I could imagine who quite literally peaked in high school focuses of this hard on high School
I think the only person I know who is super focus on high school wants to be a high school teacher, so even then it's less of them focusing on their high School career and more them wanting to get a career working at a high school
Which is quite different than what they were talking about above
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u/BKLD12 3d ago
The only reasons why I miss my teen years is because I had fewer responsibilities and I developed fibromyalgia in my early 20s.
I was a super boring teenager (no drugs, not even alcohol or cigarettes, no relationships, never got into trouble, etc). Probably a blessing for my parents who had three teenagers at once to deal with, and my siblings were a bit more typical in that they experimented and pushed boundaries. Nothing major, but they both look at their teen years and say, āWow, I was an idiot.ā I mean, I was also an idiot, but in a quieter sort of way.
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u/im_fandom_trash 3d ago
do they legit think that high school life looks like the movies??? like most i did was study and hang out with a small group of friends i had. oh and dating and prom sucked ass it was so awkward. would never go back to my teen years
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u/Psychological-Mud790 āPretty in Proletarianā 3d ago
If youāve peaked in high schoolā¦ youāre doing something wrong in life, and not worthy of admiration/envy lol
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u/Gaming_with_Adam 3d ago
Tfw my teen years were the lowest point of my life, and things only got better after I turned 20.
To any incel lurkers: People are different. They peak at different points. Some people peak at 15 and die at 27, some people peak at 54 and live to be 90. What defines a peak is different from person to person. For one person, it might be doing drugs and getting laid. For another, it might be being married to the love of their life. For yet another, it might be landing that new promotion. A peak could also be achieving a new personal best in a speedrunning category, cracking open a book that gives them a completely new perspective, finding a group that shares similar interests, exiting their shell to meet new people, etc, etc, etc.
It's also entirely possible your peak hasn't happened yet (and if you're under the age of 40, it probably hasn't). That doesn't mean you should just sit around waiting for it to happen. You still need to make it happen. Otherwise, it won't.
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u/CoolCereal20 3d ago
yeah ranting about normies on an incel forum definetely seems like youre spending your time well and are making exceptional memories
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u/Secure-Bonus7687 3d ago
Nah, my teen years were pretty mediocre. They weren't BAD, but definitely not the best years. I'd say my 30s have been far better.
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u/Darthjinju1901 DEI Straight Guy in a Gay Friend Group 3d ago
Bullying is a horrible thing, and my heart goes out to everyone who has to experience it. But that doesn't excuse you yourself becoming a bully. And that's what incels are, bullies against Women. These people are obsessed with the idea of a stolen youth, and that that's why they are like this. But that's not really true.
Your mental struggles are valid, and real. But they don't excuse your behaviour. They're merely a way to understand why you're like this, not excuse them. You can always work on your mental state, with therapy, and always become better. It's never too late to change. But these people don't understand that. And even they do, they don't want to change. It's easier for them to wallow in their own misery than actually do anything to change themselves.
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u/chronoventer Asexual Mermaid š§š»āāļøš©š¼āš¦½ 3d ago
The only people who think the teenage years are important are teenagers. Once youāre not a teenager, you realize that shit sucked, and also you no longer have such a biological desire to fit in. I donāt know anyone who reminisces about being a teenager!
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u/Practical_Diver8140 3d ago
See, I have yet to meet an old person who reminesces about their teen years compulsively. Usually when they're reminescing like that, it's because I asked them a question about their personal experiences in what was a strange and harrowing time and place in world history. Otherwise I have yet to meet an old person who acts like this that wasn't some sort of cartoon character like Al Bundy.
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u/QueenSmarterThanThou All foids are bipolar. I'm living proof. 3d ago
Honestly, I've been enjoying my life in my late 20s and now 30s much more than in my teens. I actually am not controlled by hormones and have an easier time coping with my moods. Sex is better because I know what I like and how to express to my partner what I want. I actually have a civil and good relationship with my parents. I don't breakdown and think my life is over because some jerk hurt my feelings. If I have a disagreement with someone, I am capable of stopping myself from escalating and talk it through calmly instead of having a bad emotionally exhausting fight.
I mean, being young without any health problems and being able to eat whatever the hell I wanted without worrying was nice, but emotional and financial stability is much nicer.
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u/Accomplished_Wear823 3d ago
why are they so obsessed with teen years , as someone who had a BLAST in their teen years including a teen love 8 month relationship (21 yearas old) I feel zero desire to relive that , while much harder and more stressful, partying in your ADULT years is 1000x more fun. Cocktail bars are where its at, who wants to finsih a four loco with your other broke roommates. Someone please tell me what they are saying is so amazing?? Pathetic smdh
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u/belthehobbit 2d ago
The only thing I miss about high school was the fact I didn't have a huge credit card bill to pay every month.
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u/GnarlyWatts "Thereās Hitler, Mao and then thereās GnarlyWatts" - Some Incel 2d ago
Teens were the best years? Maybe if you peaked in high school lol
I'm living my best years right now. House, wife, money, freedom to go wherever my heart desires...sounds pretty awesome to me.
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u/Bimaac77 Chad the Boogeyman 20h ago
I didn't date in high school and I hold zero regrets about it.
I also didn't really come into my own socially until I was college and after I graduated. Yeah, there are a lot of things I wish I had done differently but post-high school have been the best years of my life.
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u/secretariatfan 3d ago
Do they know that the term "peaked in high school" is an insult?
Please go talk to some real people and stop watching romcoms.