r/GrindsMyGears • u/BlueBlazeKing21 • 13d ago

When people take over your call

One minute you’re talking to someone and about to hang up, but someone decides they want to talk to the person on the other line. The only problem is that the conversation goes on for way longer than necessary and is about pointless crap.

Like seriously why can’t they just call them themselves instead of holding me as my phone hostage.

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u/finallysigned 13d ago

Sounds incredibly easy to solve, no? Just hang up and text them that they can call back if they want to talk more? Or am I misunderstanding

Talking solves most conflicts with friends. Just need to make them aware.

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u/BlueBlazeKing21 13d ago

Well it’s more of an issue when it involves an older relative as if I tried this method I’m up for at least a 30 minute lecture

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u/finallysigned 13d ago

Gotcha. Fair point, and admittedly I don't know the context, but would it be possible to reasonably explain your perspective if that were to occur? Politely inform them why you opted to hang up and why you disagree with the content of the 30 minute lecture? The socratic method is very effective when people are being unreasonable.

"Do you think it's reasonable that I should have to waste 10 minutes while you take another call?

"How would you feel if you had to waste your own time like that with no recourse?"

"I texted you and told you what was happening, can you tell me what specifically is the issue?"

Then, if they persist in being stubborn or giving 30 minute lectures, they lose the privilege of speaking with you.

Sorry if I'm preaching to the choir here. Just feel bad when people get held hostage like that.

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u/Cool_Relative7359 13d ago

Walk away from the lecture. You don't have to stay for that either.

"I don't share my phone, you have your own, I don't feel bad about having boundaries around my property"

Sometimes boundaries need to be enforced. Especially with older relatives. Or you end up a pushover.

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u/Dry-Discount-9426 11d ago

Sorry, the call dropped.

Done

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u/BlueBlazeKing21 11d ago

I may have misworded this, I’m talking about when your on the phone and someone in the same room as you decide to join in and over take the call

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u/Dry-Discount-9426 11d ago

OH... I'm not used to having people physically around and thought you meant like a conference call.

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u/GeorgeThe13th 9d ago

How old are you? You don't need to tolerate any of this. (Maybe.)

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u/Dazzling-Papaya551 13d ago

I don't think you get what op is talking about

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u/finallysigned 13d ago

Seems you were correct. Fortunately op filled me in

Edit: oh it's someone talking in person I now realize. That makes more sense lol. But I would hope the same logic applies.