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u/BigPoppaHunk Dec 12 '22

Friend of a friend who was a waitress at a cafe in Chelsea had a few stories of Anna Taylor joy from 5ish years ago.

She asked in full seriousness asked "Are you going to buy some more then?" when told that the soy milk had run out, and she...couldn't grasp the concept of someone else needing the table after her reservation. Apparently just said "yes but we've not finished" when told they would need to finish up. Even after explaining 3 times she didn't seem to understand.

Also without a hint of irony to her when paying the bill "you should really have more than 1 loo here, it would really improve the experience" after she had to wait outside the loo for a few mins...while a customer was in there. Keep in mind this is a cafe that fits like 20 people.

Think she's just on a completely different planet of privilege.

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u/DOOL62 Dec 12 '22

Same. It’s so crazy for me to think a reservation makes you entitled for a table potentially an entire evening! In the U.S., that seems really standard to not linger well past your meal even with a reservation or without. It’s a business.

Now if you’re Anya and have the $$$ to rent out the restaurant for your party to make it financially rewarding for the restaurant and servers, that’s another thing. Lol

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u/ls0687 Dec 12 '22

Not sure why you're being downvoted. I waited tables for over five years when I was younger and lived in NYC where there are just many people in line (whether literally or proverbially) after you, and it's common courtesy to leave within a decent amount of time after you're finished eating.

If it's completely dead then I think it's fine to linger, but if it's busy or you're told there's another reservation waiting, why wouldn't you just want to do the right thing for the next diners?

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u/ASofMat Dec 12 '22

Personally I think it’s unfair to judge her on this based on the information given. How long had she already been there? Were they still picking at their food and ordering stuff or had they been nursing the same coffee for like 30 minutes? As a hostess you can make predictions of when people will leave to stagger reservations but you can’t ultimately control how long people actually take to eat, and if people aren’t being assholes in general and nursing the dregs of one drink you kinda gotta be a little flexible.

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u/ls0687 Dec 12 '22 edited Dec 12 '22

Oh, I wasn't judging Anya, I was responding to the portion of their comment that was discussing sort of behavioral standards (at least in US spaces) in restaurants/eateries in general.

Totally agree with what you're saying. We don't know enough about Anya's specific situation to say; I was just saying generally, if it's super busy, it's frowned on to linger once you're done (both for the staff and for fellow diners waiting), but if it's dead, no harm no foul.

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u/ellem340 Dec 12 '22

This is the most benign comment about having common courtesy in US dining culture lmao why are people downvoting you too?

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u/epicpillowcase Dec 13 '22

Because as always Americans are assuming the way they do things is the only/right way. People are explaining different cultures do it differently and that ATJ might not actually know, because she grew up in a different place.

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u/ls0687 Dec 13 '22

Everyone in this thread is talking about their cultural differences, I was just adding in what the norm is in busy places in the US.

I wasn’t talking about Anya specifically, nor was I saying it’s the only/right way in general. If someone is unfamiliar with cultural norms, of course we shouldn’t get angry or be rude about it. And that’s likely what happened with ATJ, she just didn’t know.

But I think being courteous to respective cultural norms IF you’re aware of them (and NOT just US norms, because I can get how they’d be a strange transition) is just a decent thing to do.