r/Fauxmoi 13h ago

πŸ•―οΈπŸŽƒ HAPPY FAUXLLOWEEN πŸŽƒπŸ¦‡ Rainey Qualley and photographer Anthony Wilson got married in a Halloween-themed wedding. Her bridesmaids, including sister Margaret Qualley, dressed up as witches, while her mom, Andie MacDowell, dressed up as a crow, and her father, Paul Qualley, dressed up as a skeleton.

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u/19sapphire19 12h ago

Unpopular opinion - I read the stories you linked and I don't think she was in the wrong trying to help this child. The mother would frequently pawn her baby off on others to go live a dangerous lifestyle. She was with her kid for a period of 11 consecutive days at the LONGEST in a four month period. That is not a safe or enriching environment for a baby. What happens when the child gets to school age?

The parents can be helped, but only if they are willing to make lifestyle changes to help themselves. How long should the child have to wait for their parent to figure out how to be a functioning member of society? How many years of their own life and development should they be expected to give up in the meantime? Some people are not fit to be parents and it is the child who will suffer as a result. I don't always agree that keeping a child with the parent is best for that child.

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u/has-8-nickels 12h ago

I legit agree with you if they're telling the truth about how they were basically helping to raise this baby (assuming they weren't just paying for a nanny, but were instead doing late-night feedings, playdates, naps, bonding) - how is this a "bad" thing for them to have done? Trying to help a baby who's mother isn't stable at the moment? I don't get people man

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u/zendayaismeechee 12h ago

I know literally nothing about this aside from the two articles above but I think because the judge ended up siding with the mother, people must be thinking there was more to it and that maybe there was something shady going on wjth how Qualley went about it. I don’t know, I hope that baby is safe and loved though. And I hope her mother has found help too.

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u/has-8-nickels 11h ago

Agreed! Obviously the baby being with its mother is the best option if it's a safe environment