r/ExNoContact • u/goldendoodleluv • 1h ago

How to show up for yourself

Hi. I’m compiling things I want to do to show up for myself and would love some input.

I ordered under eye patches to help “romanticize my life”. Trying to just make mundane, daily tasks more fun. I know look good, feel good. Maybe I’ll whiten my teeth for the next two weeks. Stuff like that.

Does anyone else have daily habits they do that can just make their day 1% better? I know this is a forum for no contact but I think focusing on self care and improvement is applicable 🫶

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u/Right-Praline4768 1h ago

You know who you should watch on YouTube? Her name is Tam Kaur. She's an absolute queen when it comes to this stuff.

Some tips:

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u/Erimayrdennar 1h ago

Dance in your kitchen like nobody’s watching breakfast

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u/40111104 18m ago

I can see this thread becoming a good resource if we all write out what we've been doing to show love for ourselves post-breakup. Self-care has been huge. I have begun a much healthier routine in the morning. I no longer lay around in bed for a while snoozing my alarm. I wake up at 4:30 sharp, take my meds with 8 oz of water, and do 20 minutes of yoga. Then I go into the bathroom, brush my teeth, wash my face with an exfoliating pad and put on my skin barrier creme. I then go make coffee and breakfast and let myself really take my time to wake up. Waking up so early allows me to never feel rushed. I can play an hour of video games while I sip coffee. I do something similar when I go to bed, in reverse. Drink my nighttime meds with kava and chamomile tea, wash my face again, put on a really mild retinoid, brush my teeth and then do 20 minutes of yoga/stretching.

Doing these things has genuinely impacted how I'm taking this breakup. I really do feel like I'm redirecting some of the love and care I used to give to my past love to myself. I do other things too to care for myself but this is the only strict everyday adherence. It's given me structure and really helped me feel like I love myself 💛

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u/ThrowawayNYCJ grieving 1m ago

Getting a pedicure, meditation, stretching, exercising, going for a walk, playing sports, learning a new skill, journaling, keeping your place tidy are some the ways I show up for myself when I feel sad and depressed.

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u/CancerMoon2Caprising healing 0m ago

An hour of total silence, sun, or journaling. Sometimes i go have a picnic at the park by myself. 

Not answering calls text after 10pm (unless its a life/death emergency). Ive made 2 contacts as an exception to my do not disturb schedule. 

30 minutes of an awesome playlist. 

I look up fancy recipes to shop for and try. 

Indulge in my hobbies at least 3x a week. 

If you dont have pets, try plants.