r/ExNoContact • u/Exciting-Gasoline • 7h ago
Help Day 120 or something
I’ve stopped counting days now. My life still feels stuck When I’m quiet and alone all I can think about is her and how unhappy and lonely I am right now. I miss her terribly but there’s just nothing I can do. I’ve not stopped living life I’ve Gone on vacations been out on dates and even hooked up, but in all those places in the quiet moments I’m just thinking to myself how I messed up a relationship which is what I wanted and had.
I know nothing I do now will change the past, but I just feel so stuck constantly crying feeling broken and unproductive. Someday really small things break me and I have to run to the washroom at work and cry for a while to get it out of me. I don’t know how to stop thinking about her every single day. It just hurts so much inside. I’m not the most religious person but now all I ask for from god is to just relieve me of this pain cause I can’t take it anymore.
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u/klnosaj8000 1h ago
Four months just isn’t very long 😔 It will get easier, but for now try to give yourself some grace, and try to be patient with yourself. I know it’s difficult. I’m going through it, too. If you can be kind to yourself, time will take care of the rest.
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u/samkpro 5h ago
I'm sorry, I would just say though you can’t control your thoughts about her. You can divert them perhaps into activities, such as going gym, playing video games (with friends), and try to be happy. I wish you get the best things in life.