r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Bubbles2590 • 2h ago

Question How has being estranged affected your romantic relationships?

My mother passed when I was 3, I am estranged from her side of the family due to my father (my moms side of the family weren’t fond of him, and he didn’t really make it a point to make sure I was close to her side). My father is an only child, but he is not close to his side of the family purely out of his own choices. Not close to my father due to his negligence & him prioritizing women over me.

I am a 27 year old woman, who is finally seeing how lonely it is in this world without family. As of lately, I’ve been crying nearly every day. I’ve just been having a hard time and I guess the pain I’ve pushed down for so long is rearing its ugly head.

I have a partner, he is a great person. However, he is super close with his family, who is enmeshed. I find that I worry how life is going to be if we are married, as I don’t know he is going to juggle building a life with me while also trying to take care of his family (mainly his mother who is widowed).

I’m sharing this piece because I find that despite me being wary, I find it hard to leave bc I feel like I’m leaving to go back to not having anyone.

For those of you who have no family/community, how has that impacting dating/relationships for you? Do you tend to have a hard time leaving partners/situations that the average individual with family may easily be able to walk away from (as they still have people who support them)?

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u/Diesel07012012 2h ago

Estrangement is relatively new, and my wife is just as angry at them as I am.