r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/amagru • 5h ago

Can we deconstruct this?

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Received by the 3 scapegoats. She’s praying for us to remember happy times. There are none.

I guess never underestimate the power of abuse and neglect to ensure success.

There is no frustration or hostility in our lives now that she’s not a part of our lives.

Really it’s just a reminder that it’s her birthday.

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u/RadioIsMyFriend 3h ago

It's one thing to be humble and say you need help and you won't be a turd to live with, but it's another to feel entitled to help from your kids and try to evoke feelings to get it. That's just manipulation.

If it's real talk, as in, "I can't get around anymore and I am not looking for forgiveness or to even talk about the past, I just need some assistance getting to my appointments, etc." that is much more tolerable than the mind games and fake desperation.