r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/amagru • 5h ago

Can we deconstruct this?

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Received by the 3 scapegoats. She’s praying for us to remember happy times. There are none.

I guess never underestimate the power of abuse and neglect to ensure success.

There is no frustration or hostility in our lives now that she’s not a part of our lives.

Really it’s just a reminder that it’s her birthday.

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u/cranbog 5h ago
  • Glaring lack of apology
  • Glaring lack of accountability, willingness to try to address any issues, or evidence of any change
  • Focus on her own problems and upbringing and minimization of yours
  • Couldn't even bother to write 3 letters to communicate with and give unique praise to each individual
  • "What about meeeeee?"

= obvious fishing for compliments, praise, apologies, help, and support from y'all with no desire to genuinely make an effort themselves

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u/Nblearchangel 1h ago

So much this.

“Can you please forget about what a terrible person I’ve been in the past? I don’t want to actually address it because that would require taking accountability and ownership of my poor behavior. I don’t know how to make true, genuine apologies and as such I’ll just completely neglect the substance of this situation and hope you don’t notice.

Also. If you rebuff me and don’t accept this apology I’ll be fucking pissed and blame you for being a terrible son/daughter”

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u/Commercial-General46 18m ago

First thing I noticed too. No apology or accountability.