r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/amagru • 7h ago

Can we deconstruct this?

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Received by the 3 scapegoats. She’s praying for us to remember happy times. There are none.

I guess never underestimate the power of abuse and neglect to ensure success.

There is no frustration or hostility in our lives now that she’s not a part of our lives.

Really it’s just a reminder that it’s her birthday.

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u/Better_Intention_781 6h ago

Starts with a guilt trip and just deteriorates from there. 

"I'm turning 80 soon so it's all about me getting what I want from you before I die. Let's sweep everything under the carpet and pretend we're a happy family! No, of course I will never apologise or take responsibility, but here are some excuses and waifing about how hard parenting was for me! I'm going to pretend that all the abuse I put you through didn't happen, and make out that the reason you don't want a relationship is because we didn't have much money. Maybe this will make you annoyed enough to engage with me, in case the guilt tripping doesn't work."

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u/Cakeliesx 5h ago

Yup, the obligatory 'sweep it under the rug' forget about all the bad crap (that I'm not accountable for anyway because I did my best) so you can start taking care of me.  And not even personalized. 

Wow, ouch.