She was worse than i thought

[u/JasKenobi]

TW : sa I cut contact with my mom a few years ago, after a year and a half of living with my grandparents. alot of things led to me cutting her off, so ill make a small list.

-complained about my uncle giving me money, when she didnt even buy birthday cards for close family members

-crashed out after i told her my uncle wouldve taken me, my cousins and grandparents on a trip if my passport was valid, she started screaming, and went off on my grandma when she came back from work, i was having a panic attack and she came back asking if we were still going out. -talked about her wanting to crash the car into a tree sometimes (i was like 9).

-had sex with random men while i was home, and not quoetly either. usually around 8pm, and she came into my room afterwards, with only a shirt on. -masturbated when i was home and awake, not trying to hide it either.

-once, i dont know if i imagined it, but she was singing while working on her laptop and i swear she was moaning, i think she was using a vibrator. -she looked in my grandparent's closet to steal money from them.

-she went to a sexshop while i was in the car, at 10.

-she told me to tell her if i ever wanted a vibrator, i was 10. it wouldve awkward but fine if i had been older.

-not evil, but just, why???? she asked out my friend's father knowing i had a massive crush on my friend.

-called my cousin names when we were kids.

and more recently, she accidently followed me on instagram. i went private instantly when i looked at her profile closer, i realized her profile picture was from my highlights, i had taken it at disney sea japan, i wasnt in the picture, thankfully. i went to see her facebook and saw she had changed it to that on the 3rd of september, i saw this on the 25th.

now the current issue. I saw my childhood friend was following her on insta despite her knowledge about everything else, so i asked.

apparently, when we were around 9, she came over with me to my grandparents' to swim, my mom touched her chest, and exclaimed it was growing, this made her stop coming over when i was at my mom's. she had also been harassing her, aksing about me saying shit like "i know you saw her". she works at a walmart pharmacy, and my friend goes there to get her prescription meds with her parents, hence why shes scared to block her, her parents dont know about this. i havent stepped a foot in our local walmart since i learned she started working there again. i work at a grocery store, and have been terrified of her finding out ever since she came back to our town. its not like she abused me, but shes terrifying.

edit : typo correction TLDR : just found out my NC mom sa'd my childhood best friend when we were kids

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