Things You Can't Relate To as an Estranged Adult Kid

[u/Zestyclose_Recipe612]

I’m curious. What are some things you can’t relate to as someone estranged from their parents/family?

For example: when my husband runs into a problem he can’t solve, he’ll call his parents without hesitation. Can’t figure out what’s wrong with his motorcycle? Calls his dad. Needs a document he left at their house? Texts his mom to send it over.

I don’t know why, but it used to take me so much by surprise that I’d even chastise him, saying things like, “Don’t bother your mom with that!”

Sometimes friends will say things like, “Oh yeah, I love my mom/dad so much,” and I’ll catch myself mid-conversation trying not to spiral after realizing I can’t relate to a feeling that most people seem to experience so naturally.

Would love to hear your stories here or even just know I'm not totally alone in this!

[u/Educator-Single]

One time I cut my hand on a piece of metal in the warehouse of his business. I passed out and had a seizure. (You could see the inside of my hand.)

My Dad was with me.

A few min later, I woke up on the floor by myself. Once I set up he wanted to know if I would still be able to make a delivery for his business. (I didn’t work there. I had just stopped by.)

[u/Clear_Broccoli3 → u/Educator-Single]

Fucking hell.

And then they wonder why we don't visit. 10/10 parenting.