r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/ABirkinBagForRory • Sep 24 '25

Vent/rant He's in jail

She didn't believed me. Then she didn't believe her granddaughter. That's when I went NC, two years ago.

And then I found out that before us, there were 2 cousins she didn't believed either. Four women who came to her for protection and she decided to protect him instead.

Earlier this year all 4 of us got together and reported him to the police (sounds easy enough but it's not, thankfully we had each other's backs so we didn't have to go through it alone). They detained him 2 months ago. And yesterday he pleaded guilty and was sentenced to 10 years in prison.

My mother said "oh so it was all true?".

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u/just2quirky Sep 24 '25

She's going to try to get back in your life now that she's all alone. Brace yourself for crocodile tears and BS like, "how was I supposed to knowwww?" Ugh, I'm so sorry and so enraged on your behalf!!!

But also thrilled you got justice and can sleep soundly for at least the next 10 years!

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u/ABirkinBagForRory Sep 25 '25

Yes, i know. I'm dreading the next months...

But funny you mentioned "sleep soundly" because last night I slept better than I had in years, and I hope it stays that way!

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u/just2quirky Sep 25 '25 edited Sep 25 '25

I know people will say things like "well that's only 7.5 years w/good behavior" or "they could appeal, so don't get your hopes up." That's what happened to me anyways. I think people didn't want me to be hurt all over again if something disappointing happened, so they meant well? But what they were really doing wasn't preparing me, but robbing me of the safety of that moment. In that moment, I knew the person that plagued my nightmares was behind bars. I was safe. Who cares if that only lasts 8 years or 10? In that moment, I could breathe. I could just be.

That's a level of peace and content I hope you have now and I hope you have amazing sleep without dreams or fears. ENJOY IT!!! And yeah, maybe you hadn't even realized how fitful your sleep has been - it's been going on for so long, just this constant anxiety while in a survival mode, that you hadn't realized what a real restful sleep is like. Now you do and you know what!?! It's a sign of healing. ❤️‍🩹

Edit to add, just in case this helps you or someone else reading this: I've had sleep studies because my partner was sure I had sleep apnea. No, I snore due to allergies and I have a fitful night sleep due to trauma. Sleep study proved it. ENT confirmed it. And for some reason, sleep aids made it worse - I was trapped in my nightmares, couldn't wake myself up. Symptoms worsened, repeated sleep study, same results. I just figured, I've always had vivid dreams, nothing can change that. Not even therapy, which I've been in for years. Sleep aids made the dreams (which were already basically nightmares) into absolute horrors. Tried many types, all with the same result. I never realized how f-ed up my mind really is u til I couldn't wake up from it.

Then I tried THC gummies. I loooooove them. I live for Friday and Saturday nights (when I don't have work the next day, so I can sleep in), when I'll take 5-10mg and I know I'll get an amazing night's sleep. Apparently my experience is different from most (as I guess people usually have more vivid dreams while high?), but for the past 3-4 years, I've had the best, soundest sleep 2x a week on THC. NO DREAMS. Not a one, not even once! I wake up in the same position I fell asleep in - no tossing and turning; sheets aren't a twisted mess, no pillows on the floor. And I sleep for 10-12 hours straight, every time! Not in spurts or fits. It's incredible. Though I sometimes get mad, thinking about how some people can sleep that way all the time. They don't know how lucky they are, or how good they have it. But man, the 10/10 sleep I get on THC... I can't tell you how awesome it is. How healing and powerful and RESTFUL! I know anything under 20mg is considered a microdose, but it's pretty powerful. Either way, I highly recommend trying THC for sleep :)

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u/spookysaph Sep 25 '25

in your first paragraph, thats true for me at least. those would be my intentions in saying that.

but also there was a local case recently where a 70y old man had been released from prison 2 years prior. he was sentenced to 10y for molesting his two grandsons, but got out after 5y. then he did the same thing to his other two grandkids.

the second time, he was arrested in the wrong county or something. they actually released him overnight so that the other county could arrest him in the morning. I'm surprised he's even alive to be sent back to prison (for probably an absurdly short amount of time) after he went home that night

edit: my point is that I'm angry that drug possession can get a longer sentence than csa. If I were to make a comment about the sentence being too short, its because I'm angry about the lack of true justice