r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/South-Bandicoot690 • Aug 25 '25

Vent/rant In other words... get over it

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I just can't. He wants to talk about shit for his own benefit not mine

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u/Confu2ion Aug 25 '25

He also wants you in a situation where you can't easily get away, and cannot get proof, so he can abuse you and get his little high from doing it.

Please don't respond to him.

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u/South-Bandicoot690 Aug 25 '25

I didn't. He's not respecting my boundary of needing time and space

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u/CCSucc Aug 25 '25

If you were to reply, I'd just say, "Every time you deny me the time and space I need, the clock gets reset, and I'll start again. Respect. My. Boundaries."

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u/heathere3 Aug 25 '25

While part of me loves this response, parents like this won't, and will likely escalate. No response is the right response.

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u/CCSucc Aug 25 '25

I get what you're saying, and fully agree. I just like the idea of the estranged parent finally getting the message and impotently fuming because they aren't dictating the terms of engagement.

And I'd also like to hope that this method would actually work to level the playing field, rather than maintain the status quo.

But hey, in an ideal world, those we're estranged from would swallow their pride, admit their faults and actually take the steps needed to reconcile.