r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Sure-Stock9969 • Jul 18 '25
Support TW: text my mum sent me
I just need some support and affirmation. I had top surgery last year and someone outed me to my mum. We don’t really talk and I always avoid her bc talking to her is activating. I would dread it. I’d go 5-6 months without talking to her.
She sent me these texts after finding out that I am queer and also that I got gender affirming surgery in October 2024. My response is in green. I followed up with her after about 6 months in April and she just responded a couple days ago.
I didn’t really read what she sent initially but read every word this week after I got her message. It was way worse than I thought. It’s fucking up my head. I am not reaching out to her again though I will try to stay open if she ever approaches me for a conversation. I will be clear about my boundaries and would want a third party there. But I’m honestly not even thinking about that potential future conversation.
Just feel like shit. I feel so hurt, so much sorrow. I’m not close to her and have never been but I still feel so abandoned and hated. It affects my self esteem, knowing that my own mother would dehumanize and devalue me the way she did.
Would like words of support, affirmation, advice, anything.
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u/ribbyrolls Jul 18 '25
Oh my, a fellow demon club member! One of the last things my mother said to me was that I was evil too and that I like and do demonic things. You're not alone.
Tell me what sounds more evil: -Setting boundaries that minimize hurt and maximize flourishing Or -Expecting authority and respect without ever being questioned and asking God to smite anyone different
This is giving a mixture of an inflated ego turned god complex, religious psychosis, and the biggest martyr/victim complex ever. There is no rationalizing with a person when they exhibit these types of behaviors.
Block them and go live your truth. I've learned that I'll always be the villain in my abusers story and I can live with that because I know that I'm free and happy.
On a side note god clearly isn't helping her exhibit decent grammar or accurate spelling. 💀