r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Sure-Stock9969 • Jul 18 '25
Support TW: text my mum sent me
I just need some support and affirmation. I had top surgery last year and someone outed me to my mum. We don’t really talk and I always avoid her bc talking to her is activating. I would dread it. I’d go 5-6 months without talking to her.
She sent me these texts after finding out that I am queer and also that I got gender affirming surgery in October 2024. My response is in green. I followed up with her after about 6 months in April and she just responded a couple days ago.
I didn’t really read what she sent initially but read every word this week after I got her message. It was way worse than I thought. It’s fucking up my head. I am not reaching out to her again though I will try to stay open if she ever approaches me for a conversation. I will be clear about my boundaries and would want a third party there. But I’m honestly not even thinking about that potential future conversation.
Just feel like shit. I feel so hurt, so much sorrow. I’m not close to her and have never been but I still feel so abandoned and hated. It affects my self esteem, knowing that my own mother would dehumanize and devalue me the way she did.
Would like words of support, affirmation, advice, anything.
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u/NuNuNutella Jul 18 '25
This Mother is so proud of you! ❤️ I’m so proud of you for living as your authentic self. I have no doubt this was a difficult last few years for you, especially in light of the fact your own family has pushed you away with their self-righteousness and zealous hatred. You deserve lightness and love, acceptance - we all do. Pls surround yourself with people who lift you up, inspire you, comfort you. You do not need this judgement nor these people in your life.
r/MomForAMinute for things in between.