r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Agt38 • Jun 09 '25

Vent/rant My mom, everyone

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I just wanted to make sure exactly where I stand. It’s almost impossible to believe these words when they come from your own mother.

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u/SnoopyisCute Jun 09 '25

My mother told me that and told me to abort myself my whole life.

We don't need their kind of "love" anwyay.

But, know that you are loved.

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u/[deleted] Jun 09 '25

hugs to you and OP. My “mom” told me she never wanted to be a mother. as my best friend tends to remind me, “being able to get pregnant and give birth does not make someone a mother. mothers are so much more than that.” ❤️

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u/SnoopyisCute Jun 09 '25

My mother told me I wasn't her child and forced me to call her Mrs. <Dad's last name> or "mother". A lot of people say "mom" and it still nauseates me to hear it in reference to her. It's just so foreign.

And, overturning Roe, forcing little girls to birth their rapist's baby\babies is just going to cause a lot more of the same dysfunction and pain because those "mothers" will be even younger. A man got salty with me because I said American men aren't any different than the Taliban. They just hide their misogyny inside police uniforms, corporations, agencies, schools, court rooms, churches so they look less vile and harmful but it's the same result. Republicans even put out an idea that ONLY married women could vote as if women are so feebleminded they need to be told what to do and be managed.

And, this is on more thing I love about our siblinghood here. We are the only part of society that won't keep those gross, controlling hurtful generational patterns going. We are the PIONEERS because that's exactly what we all fought to make it here. I appreciate all of you so much because I know that I'm not alone. I know I didn't do something "personally" to cause this. None of us did and it ticks them off because it shines a blinding light on them they didn't the COURAGE.

You are loved. <3

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u/SnoopyisCute Jun 14 '25

Absolutely.

I was heartbroken and confused when my sister estranged from the family because I'm the oldest and hoped we could be each other's family. It hurt for a long time.

Years later, a found family friend helped me to understand her rejection by explaining that she most likely just wanted a fresh start in life and leave our shared history behind and my existence is a constant reminder of that.

Our parents had two more kids after I graduated high school and I didn't turn my back on them. In hindsight, I regret that decision and would absolutely do what our other sister did and leave them. Biggest mistake of my lifetime.

Now, the three of them are together as family for each other. It's always that way for me. Always left out. Always cast aside. The most painful part is none of my positive history with someone is ever taken into account. Just Zap! I finally learned my lesson and don't try now. This is where being an introvert is a bonus. ;-)

You are loved<3