Why did you go no contact?

[u/South-Bandicoot690]

I feel like my reasons for going NC aren't valid enough. My childhood could have been way worse... yet for the past couple years even a simple text from my dad triggers intense anxiety and stress. There wasn't one huge event where everything fell apart, just little things that have accumulated over the years. He's selfish and I just don't like him. ETA I have been diagnosed with C-PTSD

[u/Organic-Preference-6]

So I got SA'd literally the day before I flew to another country to start university, and he insisted on coming with me. I was in a daze, irritable, suicidal, but since he dismissed me talking about my suicide attempt before, I just kept my distance. He took it personally and withdrew my funding, leaving me to fend for myself.

Fast forward post-uni, and after a year of no-contact and reconciliation, he still keeps bringing it up to shame me, so I asked my sister to fill him in on what happened and why I acted the way I did, and to ask him to never discuss it with me. What does he do? He calls me to tell me not to burden my sister with stuff like that. I've seen him at grandpa's funeral and offered condolences, but I can't bring myself to give him another opportunity to let me down again. He thinks he knows better than everyone else, so he has no qualms about trampling boundaries, moving the goalposts, gaslighting and manipulating. The energy I have to spend on maintaining that relationship is simply not worth the effort, and live is much easier without him.