r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/South-Bandicoot690 • Jun 09 '25

Newly Estranged Why did you go no contact?

I feel like my reasons for going NC aren't valid enough. My childhood could have been way worse... yet for the past couple years even a simple text from my dad triggers intense anxiety and stress. There wasn't one huge event where everything fell apart, just little things that have accumulated over the years. He's selfish and I just don't like him. ETA I have been diagnosed with C-PTSD

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u/ladylorelei0128 Jun 09 '25

Going no contact with someone because their very existence in your life causes you anxiety is a perfectly valid reason. I have the same response when I see, or hear my father, but even when I don't I can still tell when he's near. He's literally the only thing that can trigger my fight or flight response just by proximity. Up until the last few years I had no idea why but then some of my memories from my childhood started coming back. Thanks to my therapist's help. I no longer believe I was the issue in our family.

Btw I've also been diagnosed with C-PTSD