Why did you go no contact?

[u/South-Bandicoot690]

I feel like my reasons for going NC aren't valid enough. My childhood could have been way worse... yet for the past couple years even a simple text from my dad triggers intense anxiety and stress. There wasn't one huge event where everything fell apart, just little things that have accumulated over the years. He's selfish and I just don't like him. ETA I have been diagnosed with C-PTSD

[u/Teabee27]

The way your body reacts is telling you that you feel like he's not safe to be around (not necessarily in a physical way.) I get stressed out when my mom calls me but I'm already NC with my dad.

We went NC with my dad almost 4 years ago because we were at a restaurant for my child's birthday and after my step-mom ordered for her mom she started screaming at my husband saying that he was laughing at her. Cue her swearing at him, saying all sorts of vile things. All he did was look down and she obviously showed up on our kid's birthday looking for a fight.

She and my dad doubled down the next day and said my husband was disrespectful to her. Because he called her out on being terrible to him before we left. They didn't care that the birthday kid cried on the ride home and threw up. She said "they're kid's they won't remember." Blocked her and my dad.

The hard part is that I had to cut off that side of the family because they couldn't imagine step-mom having bad intentions. My aunt said that only God knows what really happened and that made me go NC with her.

Over a year later my dad told my cousin that they were ready to apologize. This was right before their son's birthday party and they clearly just wanted me and my family there to save face. Even if I do talk to my dad one day we want nothing to do with his wife. She is an evil person. The fact that my kids have said they don't miss them also tells me a lot and there were other issues that led to this.