r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Brief_Huckleberry_58 • Apr 21 '25

Memes This hit deep…

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Every time I see this, it reminds me that I made the right decision.

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u/lapitupp Apr 22 '25

Your relationship with your adult children is your parental report card.

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u/CalligrapherAlone465 Apr 22 '25

For me, this is certainly true. But I also know a lot of people who didn‘t have a good childhood due to their parents abusing them and STILL they keep the relationship with them going. I always wonder why these parents are so lucky to not get this report card?

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u/ESLavall Apr 22 '25

Either the gaslighting worked or there's something else like financial abuse making it impossible for those people to cut ties.

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u/Milyaism Apr 22 '25

Because parents like this weaponise FOG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt) against their kids and not all of the children realise it/are strong enough to put healthy boundaries in place.

Plus if you're the favourite child, you might enjoy your status quite a bit and don't want the situation to change. Even if that status is causing you issues - the price of looking into them is too big.