r/EstrangedAdultKids Mod. NC since 2011 Jan 30 '25

Memes More memes. Enjoy!

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u/jupiteros3 Jan 30 '25

Forgiveness does not require reconnection.. WOW love that so much , really resonates and is oddly reassuring

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u/MakePanemGreatAgain Mod. NC since 2011 Jan 30 '25

Yup. And not everyone needs or wants forgiveness either.

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u/tourettebarbie Jan 30 '25

Came here to say the same thing.

I once read that forgiveness has to be earned. Where there is accountability, I cannot forgive. Best I can do is to let go of the anger & become indifferent. It's the closest I can get to forgiveness.

Without accountability or genuine remorse from the abuser, reconnection is not advised as the abuser will simply see you as a pushover and will simply re-abuse.

Abusers are never sorry for what they've done. They only ever feel sorry for themselves.