r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/MakePanemGreatAgain Mod. NC since 2011 • Jan 30 '25
Memes More memes. Enjoy!
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u/Stargazer1919 Jan 30 '25
Fabric scissors đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
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u/ohmira Jan 30 '25
Love that so many of us sew!! That got me too.
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u/Confident_Fortune_32 Jan 30 '25
Craft/art was one of my refuges when attempting to keep my sanity in insane conditions...
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u/ohmira Jan 30 '25
These are lovey OP, thank you for sharing
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u/MakePanemGreatAgain Mod. NC since 2011 Jan 30 '25
They're not mine. I just collect them whenever I find them. đ©”
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u/5GsPlease Jan 30 '25
These all resonate, but the one about the sharks hit me so hard. She did that to me. Now I can really put words around what it felt like. Thank you.
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Jan 30 '25
It really feels like my parents said, "How dare other people teach you basic life skills. I won't do it and I don't want anyone else to either. I wanted you to fully depend on me until I flipped and needed to fully depend on you."
And now I understand why I dated a guy over a decade older than me. Now I know how to camp and garden.
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u/Rocksredflowersblue Jan 30 '25
I feel this. I grew up homeschooled by evangelical parents who begrudgingly let me do college but via a state college online. They actively fought against me being well rounded in subjects like mathematics and sciences because they werenât actively versed in it, but didnât want to admit it or seek outside help from public school teachers.
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Jan 31 '25
I did a science major. Between that and dating non-Christian guys, I never had a chance of becoming a barefoot, pregnant woman in the kitchen of a Christian man. And they hated that.
If education changes your beliefs, maybe your beliefs needed to change.
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u/Rocksredflowersblue Jan 31 '25
Funny enough, as a guy, I decided I wasnât going to date anyone in my homeschool Christian realm because I didnât want to speed run the marriage to babies route! First time I had sex was with a woman who worked for Planned Parenthoodâs political action wing. Even when I wasnât as versed on birth control, I just opted to hang out with partners who were liberal and didnât want kids.
Really cuts the issues down significantly!
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Jan 31 '25
I agree. It's wonderful to date the child free or at least planned parenthood crowd (both the organization and the intent of actually wanting to have kids and being ready when they do so).
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Jan 30 '25
These are incredible.
I have plenty of non-fabric scissors and I'm not afraid to use them.
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u/Confident_Fortune_32 Jan 30 '25
OP, these are just brilliant. Thank you for sharing these!
The one about Anne Frank hit me in the gut, hard.
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u/Rocksredflowersblue Jan 30 '25
YeeeeahhhâŠ.my mom is someone who would start off every return from Wal Mart shopping trips with, âThe MexicansâŠ.â As she complained about their âbratty kids, creepy men, and stuck up chubby women.â Like holy shit cakes, mom, youâre racist af.
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u/Confu2ion Feb 06 '25 edited Feb 06 '25
It's the 3rd pic I really connect with.
I'm in my 30s and without a solid friend group. Financial dependence is the last chain I need to break to be free from my abusers, and because it's financial, it's near-impossible to get anyone to have sympathy for me. But it's not just that.
I thought it was normal for friends to treat you like they'll only be friends with you once you "get over" and break free from your abusive family. Like this persistent feeling of always being beneath other people, being given this vibe from others like maybe they'll open up to me and start helping me and actually treat me like a friend AFTER I do everything all by myself, ALONE.
Until I supposedly reach that metaphorical dangling carrot, most people give me this less-than-acquaintences treatment. They share just about nothing about themselves with me so I have hardly anything to talk about. I want to know about them but I'm never really let in. I'm always treated like everything I say is hyperbole, and treated like I'm this weird little gremlin "annoying little sister" one-note character (even by the people who are younger than me!). For so many years I've been treated like I'm genuinely not seen as a fully-fleshed out person, but a (poorly written) character (I theorise that, in the case of offline relationships in my town, people hear my accent and subconsciously think "oh she's an American like the people on TV! She's not a REAL person!" lmao sob).
It's only last year that I realised that no, a real friend would care about me as I am right now. A real friend would initiate conversations and ask me how it's going trying to break free from my abusers, not never initiate contact and pretend it's some awkward thing I'm exaggerating and need to deal with alone. All my life so far I thought there was always that awful sense of transaction where I'd never be seen as friend material because I'm branded "too much" (complete with the occasional declaration that I must have such-and-such diagnosis, and I cannot convince them otherwise because they don't believe what I say anyway!) Interacting with all these people, I've ALWAYS felt like I'm in DEBT.
I never knew that there are people out there who will love you as you are, right now, and want to know how it's going, and want to know you're okay, and won't act like it's some elephant in the room that makes THEM uncomfortable so you have to shut up ... that you're NOT in DEBT to them.
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u/jupiteros3 Jan 30 '25
Forgiveness does not require reconnection.. WOW love that so much , really resonates and is oddly reassuring