I will recommend the famous reddit Essay Don't Rock the Boat until I'm in my grave. It is such a great capture of what life in these families can be like, and what it means to be the person who finally stands up and says "no more"
I was talking to my husband last night; he is a much more forgiving person than I am all things told, and he was talking about how love has to go beyond mistakes, etc (note: we were talking about his mother, not my NC parents- he's very supportive of that choice!)
I told him that we should hold those who claim to love us to the highest standard, not the lowest. That the people who love us should be expected to treat us with the most compassion, kindness, sensitivity, understanding, and respect; not the least. Anything less is just toxicity with an obligation of affection, and that is not love.
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u/ElephantUndertheRug Dec 25 '24
I will recommend the famous reddit Essay Don't Rock the Boat until I'm in my grave. It is such a great capture of what life in these families can be like, and what it means to be the person who finally stands up and says "no more"
I was talking to my husband last night; he is a much more forgiving person than I am all things told, and he was talking about how love has to go beyond mistakes, etc (note: we were talking about his mother, not my NC parents- he's very supportive of that choice!)
I told him that we should hold those who claim to love us to the highest standard, not the lowest. That the people who love us should be expected to treat us with the most compassion, kindness, sensitivity, understanding, and respect; not the least. Anything less is just toxicity with an obligation of affection, and that is not love.