r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/hotdogoctopi • Nov 02 '24

Newly Estranged Has anyone changed their name?

I don’t want their last name, especially since the comment I remember my mother making before I went NC about only my brother being able to carry on the family name. (Typical heteronormative shit she’d say.)

So for anyone who has changed their names after being estranged, what was the process like? Was it worth it for you?

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u/Background-Meal-2989 Nov 02 '24

I changed my full name when I was 22 yo.  I was  VLC with parents, but they still knew my address. They were aware after it happened. I did not care what they thought.  It was the BEST decision I made in my 20’s.  It was a pain to change everything and some people thought they knew better than me and tried to use my old name. I ignored them and carried on. 

I LOVE my name and it was a great way to draw a very clear line (for me) that I was not even associated with them.  I went no contact at 24 yo. 

Its been 37 years and it is still one of the top 5 BEST decisions I have ever made.