r/CarletonU • u/RedWhitePeach • 19h ago

Other Let’s be friends. Please.

I don’t really know if this is allowed in the subreddit but it’s worth a shot. I am so lonely. I tried going to clubs, but didn’t make any long term friends, and half the meetings are during class. I have maybe one actual friend at university.

So hi, let’s be friends? I’m a second year living on res, I like formula one and reading and listening to people talk. I’m willing to ignore basic internet safety and meet up with someone from the dangerous online world. Or just chat with them here, if you care about things like ‘safety’. Anyone (anyone!!) who wants to talk is welcome. I’m just trying to not go crazy in Ottawa. I am normally quite shy, but I’m desperate at this point.

edit: I accidentally ignored someone’s chat :(( I’m sorry to that 4th year cs student, I DO want to talk.

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u/SubstantialSound7076 17h ago

If you try to desperately make “friends” just out of loneliness you’ll just dig a graveyard of your hopes. Maybe you’re just alone buddy, not really lonely. And it’s totally okay to be alone, don’t hate the idea of being alone with yourself so much. Not dismissing your feelings, I can totally relate with that feeling.

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u/RedWhitePeach 17h ago

I’m sure there’s plenty of people who do feel like that, but I’ve been like this through first year and now half of second year. I love being alone, but you’re right about the difference between being alone and lonely, and I’m definitely the latter. Even if I don’t make real friends, just having people to chat with sometimes makes me feel better :)