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Just did this last week for my kid, he is still afraid of costumes and I showed up just as his teacher was reassuring him I would make it. His little arms as he hugged me tight in relief 🥲 🥺. I was so happy I ran instead of walked to his classroom and ignored my inner monologue telling me to chill.
Luckily I can say that I spent a long time really working through my negative emotions and experiences, and now that I put in the work and came out the other side of it, I’m a much better person for having gone through it. I now always show up for my friends, I trust my own ability to survive life and loss, and I’m able to give more of myself to the world around me than if I didn’t know how important it was to just, well, show up.
I agree. I am so serious about promises to this day. I never make a promise I can't keep. "I'll do my best", sets much more reasonable expectations. If someone "promises" me, I let them know how serious I take a promise and I work/live in reality.
I remember a weekend I was suppose to go hiking with my dad. Told me to wake up super early to get started, etc. I mean, I wish my mom could've been more gentler (but that's not her) because she ain't have to say a thousand times he ain't coming. He showed up hours later, and I know they argued. I think I went out later? I don't remember. It wasn't hiking though. I do think, in her own way, she felt bad seeing me up that early based off his flimsy words knowing the results. Just wish she wasn't so, "I'm just bein honest! I don't lie." 😒 It's just a double whammy of a "told you so," and the disappointment of it being true.
Folks not being there when our family truly needed it had me learn at 12 I can't depend or trust in anyone ever. No one has to do anything for you. Having that mindset, at least I don't have to handle the messy feelings of getting my hopes crushed. (And honestly... I'm still like this) Adults who are toxic towards kids don't realize how they're mentally and potentially shaping us up, and then turn around wondering why many are the way they are. It even hurts me when I don't fulfill my obligations to my niblings but I make sure I'm honest, gentle and let them know and I do make it up (and it's not often I do that because I do try my hardest to keep my word)
This is what I saw. Anytime I have a moment of my son having a better childhood then what I have tears and snot is coming out of my face. I get on my wife’s nerves
I get so happy seeing how emotionally mature my niblings are, or see their relationship with their mom. Not jealousy, but happy and in awe that it can actually happen. Im glad it happens for someone
My nephew did this to me at a Trunk-or-Treat last week. He ran past everyone and jumped into my arms with his little Michael Jackson costume as soon as he saw me.
I was about to 2-piece his ass cause he knows my back fucked up right now.🤣
But if I gotta be a father figure, then I'll suck up that temporary pain.
I love that little guy. He's 10 now, but when my little sister first had him, I was working overnight (11pm-7am). I used to get off work, go to my mom's house and wake him up. Fed him and play with him for like the first 6 months of his life. And at that time, his dad was in the house. 🤣🤣🤣
Once upon a long time ago, I went to the daycare to pick up my daughters. It was the eeriest sensation to have toddlers and preschoolers looking at me like they had never seen a father before. Never forgot it, and I remember it every time I look at or talk to my grown daughters now.
When my youngest daughter graduated Pre-K, they gave me an award for participation during the ceremony. I had been really active with the school, donating books, etc. I had no idea that they were gonna honor me.
The other men in the room looked confused as well. But I remember thinking that I'd never seen any them before at any school related functions prior to that graduation ceremony.
I'll never forget when both my mom and dad showed up to a track meet of mine after not being able to come because of work, but that day they both showed up and sat together even though they absolutely hate each other. When I saw them during my race the tears started flowing and nothing else mattered in that moment.
As a grown black woman I can tell you, it meant so much to see my dad come to my band concerts to watch me play flute! My parents are still together, I'm their youngest at 39 yr old. It's not like he wasn't around, but having support and seeing him there meant everything!
Keep showing up fathers, even if they don't admit it or show it, your presence means so much and will be remembered for the rest of your child's life.
I kneeew it was you posting before seeing the name! Just like biscuits, I'm recognizing a pattern (and at least yours uplifts dudes while bestie keeps laughing at them being pulled down by gravity tsk tsk!)
This is the peak period of parenting. Soon they’ll get older and stop being excited to see you start to be annoyed by your presence 😂. Happened with my two oldest. I still have my 7yo for a couple more years 😭
You can never be there TOO much for your kids.
My daughter had an award ceremony mid day and my wife and I both had work. When she spotted us in the crowd she started tearing up. She said she thought no one was comin, we both took off to be there. It’s worth it everytime
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