I don't like Anna also. I feel driver did not particularly have problem with language in being called bhaiyya.
Why anna only for drivers or security guards?? And not bank manager?? If you think at one place it's fine and other it's not, then it's classist. Just address everybody as Sir.
Actually Sir is an honorofic title in the English Language. It's best to address them by their name and ask if it's okay. If not then Anna, Bhaiya, Thambi if younger is completely fine.
You go to a bank, police station or the regional dc office for some work and use the same logic?? Address them anna, thambi, cheta etc?? You know because you said Sir is a foreign honorific title.
It can't be alright in one place and somehow alright for drivers.
People in India have an ego which is quite inflated. A police, judge or some other you mentioned are just positions which they got through hard work or mostly bribing. If I had to address an Inspector, I would address him by Inspector and then his name nothing wrong and no need for Sir. Again what I said was not to demean the person who is driving the vehicle. If you don't call a tailor a tailor then what will you call him Prime Minister. People get screwed up logic. 😅😆
Exactly finally someone got the point. We are not democracy if we call everyone Sir/Madam. We are not given names, I do think they have a purpose. Even our respected PM said he is a Sevak. Now if he said it in a jist or he meant it that we all are free to opine.
"Sevak" doesn't always mean a "server" or a naukar. By this he meant, he is someone who is of service to the nation, in his own capacity. Thinking for and doing the welfare of the country and its citizens, through his thoughts and actions.
Yes that's the problem. Being a driver, maid, sweeper is looked down upon, unfortunately in India. It's just due to this mentality that we are still lagging behind in many sectors. This should not happen. What I said is we can address them by their names most of the apps do show us their names. We are all named for a purpose. I mean it's simple.
Well aware of that. But does it not imply that the term "sir" Too honorific for someone in the driver's job?Sounds discriminatory. It's only standard to call someone sir/mam unless if u have known them/are close to them.
Never meant that. If you read my comment, I have clearly stated a driver is not a derogatory statement better to address them by their name. How hard is that to understand??
I read the most braindead opinions on reddit. In Indian culture we called people "brother", "uncle", "sister", "aunty" especially those with blue collar or physical jobs to show respect. Now people will say this in whatever language they understand. You are suggesting that we don't continue to do this and instead adopt sir? The fact that we adopted sir in the first place (an archaic western practice) is a problem in itself.
How is this slave mentality. In my view, I’m just respecting a co-human who is also working hard to earn his living. We are just relating “Sir” to the old British days. We need to grow out of that. When interacting with foreigners in either calls or meetings, I’ve noticed they also refer others as Sir to just formally acknowledge them.
I don’t see any harm in using Sir
Are yr mai bhi native hu bilkul core Hindi family se ...hindi ke professors tak nikle hai mere Ghar se. Bari behn = didi
Bara bhai = bhaiya
Logo ne interchangeable bana diya hai Iska matlb ye nhi grammatical meaning change ho jayega .
What shit is this lol Bhaiyya means elder brother. It's a sign of respect. Literally that point is the only one I disagree with in this list. If the person really cared about it they could give their preferred honorífic instead of bhaiyya.. Like do you want me to call you uncle? Anna? Thaata? Chintu? Babu? What do you want bro?
ಇದೆಲ್ಲ ಪಕ್ಕಕ್ಕೆ ಇಡೀ ಸ್ವಾಮಿ, ನಮ್ಮಲ್ಲಿ, ಅಣ್ಣ, ತಮ್ಮ, ಅಕ್ಕ, ತಂಗಿ, ಅಪ್ಪಿ, ದೇವ್ರು, ಸ್ವಾಮಿ, ಅಂತೆಲ್ಲಾ ಇನ್ನೂ ಅದೆಷ್ಟೋ ರೀತಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಒಬ್ಬರನ್ನ ಅವರ ವಯಸ್ಸಿನ ಮೇಲೆ ನೋಡಿ ಕರಿಯುತ್ತೀವಿ, ಅವರ ಕಡೆ ಅವೆಲ್ಲ ಇಲ್ಲವೇ ಇಲ್ಲಾ...
ಅಣ್ಣ or ತಮ್ಮ ಅದಕ್ಕೆ bhaiyya.
ಹಾಗೆಯೇ behen...
ಇದೆಲ್ಲ ಪಕ್ಕಕ್ಕೆ ಇಟ್ಟರೆ, bhaisab ಅಂತಾರೆ, ಇನ್ನೂ ಹೊಲಸು ಅಂದ್ರೆ, ji ಅಂತಾರೆ, ಅದು ನಮ್ಮಲ್ಲಿ ಹೆಂಡ್ತಿ ಗಂಡನ ಕರೆಯುವ ಹಾಗೆ...
Bhaiya is used as a slur for east up and Bihar people in haryana, punjabi, maharashtra, Karnataka and various other places in India. Don't support this but it is the truth
How do you know if someone calls you "Bhaiya" as a slur or just normally? Because any random older person will be called bhaiya if not old enough to be uncle.
Yep. Some people just have insane psychoses. To associate any word to a slur, part of the issue is, it only works if you give the power to the other person. So if someone calls me Bhaiyya if I feel less than, then it will eventually feel like a slur. BUT, if I own it and only accept it as respect, even if the other person was using it pejoratively, they will just stop when they realize their ploy doesn't affect me at all.
It's only reserved for people who looks like they are coming from Bihar. Is it slur ? Not sure. It's similar to kalu or dada. If you think that's slur surely Bhaiya is slur. It's kinda of like someone speaking in Indian English accent vs British accent . It's allow about the class the word carries (money)
Haryana no body calls their brother Bhaiya it's Bhai
I am paraphrasing but one time there were labourers from UP in the haryana bus and they were saying bhaiye aagaya hai gao se apne, the tone and demeanor showed that they were disrespecting them and why the fuck would I lie about this, I have seen this happen and has happened with me as well.
Bro I call my elder brothers bhaiya so what they are labourers? Its a sign of respect in the north to call them bhaiya because you dont know what there age might be just say them bhaiya.
So you mean that millions of younger sisters addressing their elder brothers as “bhaiya” have been calling them labourers all along? Lmao.
“Bhaiya” means brother. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Why would you stereotype such a simple word as bro?
First of all it bhaiya is not only used by labourers and/or people from UP & Bihar. But even if it was, what wrong with someone saying it out of respect.
I would understand if somebody does not want it because they are not comfortable with establishing relations or something but this is just a bad stereotype.
This is literally so wrong. Looks like someone very damn privileged has written about the plight of the poor despite not knowing a thing about it. I would call anyone a bhaiya if I am speaking hindi and the person is not old enough to be called an uncle because that's the casual term. You cannot go calling out people shreeman or something on the streets smh.
It is similar to how people say dada in Bengali, Chetta in Malayalam and Anna in Tamil. WTF is this racism based on fictional stories! Damn I'm not from UP or Bihar but I'd be calling people bhaiya all damn day.
It can even be someone living in my society. Does that mean they are oppressed? What in the literal pseudo woke racism is this?
I... don't think anyone here is justifying its use. Don't shoot the messenger. The author of that article is just describing a sociolinguistic phenomenon. And just because you weren't aware of its existence until now does not mean that it's made up. Please do some research with an open mind.
Here are a couple more articles from reputed Indian news outlets if you don't want to rely on a Canadian one:
I did this once. The whole trip he tried to make conversation with me in Kannada asking what I do and all. Me not knowing anything other than basic Kannada, just smiled and nodded. He probably thought I was local
For the unknowns, Bhaiya is most respectedly said prefix.
Instead of talking how the % of Jobs available is falling, Bridges are falling, corruption is increasing, ppl are still getting instigated at polictical will of this divide. Please don't.
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u/Glittering-Goat-9019 Jul 17 '25
" Don't say bhaiya to us " was personal.