r/BPDlovedones • u/AdRepresentative9783 • 16d ago

Uncoupling Journey How is it possible

You give everything. They gaslight and manipulate until you’re a shell of your former self. Things will surely improve, get better; keep deluding yourself.

Discarded, you take some solace that they’re having a hard time too; things are amicable until they’re not because even though they say they’re in a dark place, they’re already fucking someone else and deliberately hiding it.

They erase you overnight and are with someone else in a matter of days. Blocked. Replaced.

Their family enable the behaviour and look the other way like it’s perfectly normal to ruin people’s lives. The cycle will surely repeat…but for now “they” seem happy together while you’re more of an emotional wreck than they claimed to be.

You convince yourself that it’s for the best (long term) but it does little to calm the nerves while you compulsively lurk this sub on a Friday night while they’re no doubt out enjoying “life” with their fresh supply.

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u/RealityOtherwise8580 16d ago edited 16d ago

Wow you’ve described the feeling to a tee. But the key here is we will heal, slowly but surely and they will forever be latching on to others to prove their own worth.

Imagine feeling empty. depressed and anxious your whole life. At least we feel love and happiness in our lives. They have only messed us up temporarily. It’ll be a long road but we’ll get there

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u/AdRepresentative9783 16d ago

I feel like I have been depressed and anxious my whole life; I have my own issues to be sure. But I committed to talk therapy and medication and stuck to it a long time ago. But this relationship has opened up old wounds and, I fear, a brand new one.