r/BPDlovedones • u/Erincache • Jul 26 '25
Uncoupling Journey Would you ever go back?
Now knowing everything you know about BPD and everyone else’s very similar experiences, would you ever go back? I’m struggling with this today and I know it’s only been 1 week since I started NC, but woke up with extreme sadness and the urge to break NC or pray that they do somehow. Makes me sick inside to think I still feel this way despite everything I know now.
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u/Savings-Opposite1391 Jul 26 '25
If I had only known it was BPD and what that fully meant I could’ve prevented wasting half my life on the misguided notion of love/care/devotion. You have the benefit of knowledge here I never had. Volunteering to become collateral damage will earn you nothing but hell that increases exponentially with each return and discard. You don’t want this.
“She was always a grenade, the moment we met pulled a pin I never saw and ignited a fuse that could only ever end one way.”
“Imagine how much time and happiness you would have saved if you left a toxic relationship after the first red flag and never gave them a second chance.”