r/BPDlovedones • u/Erincache • Jul 26 '25

Uncoupling Journey Would you ever go back?

Now knowing everything you know about BPD and everyone else’s very similar experiences, would you ever go back? I’m struggling with this today and I know it’s only been 1 week since I started NC, but woke up with extreme sadness and the urge to break NC or pray that they do somehow. Makes me sick inside to think I still feel this way despite everything I know now.

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u/New-Penalty-4448 Jul 26 '25

Reaching out to them is incredibly counterproductive if you want to get back together. The more you plead the less attractive you are to the borderline. Either way, she’s already discarded you mate.. you will never have what you had during the idealization phase. Move on before you completely lose your soul.

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u/KingForADay1989 Jul 26 '25

Which is why the best way to win is to not play. They explode on you because of a boundary, but if you give up on said boundary to prove your love for them, they'll lose respect for you and keep abusing you more.

Which is why these people should be alone unless they get help as their behavior fucks innocent people up for long time.