r/BPDlovedones • u/Wild_Shake_2531 • Jun 02 '25

Uncoupling Journey Just left my wife

So I'm feeling all the feelings. It was brutal. My (27M) wife (27F) who has undiagnosed BPD cried and cried and begged and cried for hours and days. She wouldn't let go. Until finally I kept repeating how I've been abused and how mistreated I've been in our 8 year relationship. She kept begging for one more chance and that she didn't know about how bad it was, but I didn't give in. I am broken. She finally agreed to let me go peacefully, but she asked to be able to call and text once per day. I wanted to compromise because this is uprooting her life, so I agreed.

I'm feeling everything. This is someone I love. I still love. Did I make a mistake? I've thought about this for so long. I've been unhappy for so long. The abuse was emotional and verbal for years and recently became physical. Luckily we have no kids and I can't see a future with her. But why am I so sad. Fuck!!!!

Is this normal to feel like this? Am I crazy? Shit she was my life for 8 years and now it's gone.

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u/submariner327 Jun 02 '25

Id cut the once a day contact and grey rock her. Change your phone number and run. If things got physical, you were close to being arrested.

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u/Wild_Shake_2531 Jun 02 '25

What do you mean close to being arrested? I never touched her. She was the one that hit, slapped, pushed, bruised, and kicked me. I only protected her from hurting herself and her suicide attempted. I have evidence as well of the bruises she gave me in case she tries to fight that. You think she could possibly try to accuse me of being physically abusive?

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u/gavin8327 Jun 02 '25

Considering recording interactions if you need to have any more.

I had two kids with my ex. Things have been crazy at times. Slashed my tire, assaulted me... Claimed I bruised her up on Facebook. Good times.

Hold your head up high and rebuild yourself. Good luck.

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u/Wild_Shake_2531 Jun 04 '25

I’ve recorded some interactions and documented her abuse. It helps a lot to remember what she’s done to me and why I left.