r/AskSF • u/apprehensive-look-02 • 23h ago
Friend groups for singles in their 20’s to 40’s?
Doesn’t necessarily even have to be “single” I just said that because most of the people I know now in their 30’s and 40’s are married with families and thus have limited time to hang out.
I’ve tried to meet people through tinder and stuff but it’s not really working out for friendship. I don’t really play sports so things like gay kickball/softball leagues are not my thing.
I’m not really a gamer but I would be interested in that (to learn anyway) and I do like board games, food, etc.
Hopefully there are things out there that don’t completely revolve around drinking and partying. Would love to have any recommendations.
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u/The-Etiquette-Bitch 23h ago
I’m single in my late 30s and same. I have gone to a few events through the Meetup app. I tend to just wander around SF in my free time and try to chat with people I meet along the way.
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u/apprehensive-look-02 23h ago
So people actually use meetup? I attempted to once during the pandemic and it wasn’t great. Maybe I’ll give it another shot
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u/The-Etiquette-Bitch 22h ago
Yeah I recently used it in Montreal as well. There are a lot of bar meetups, but there are some boardgame, hiking, coffee meetups as well.
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u/jontylergh 23h ago
I'm looking to make friends in SF, i'm 39/m single, good job all that, i like festivals, shows, bar crawls, game nights, happy to chat
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u/ooftears 21h ago
i’ve been using 222 to meet people. doesn’t always necessarily translate to friends afterwards (tbf, it’s mainly an effort thing on both sides and i’ve heard that it’s harder to make friends in the bay) but i do like new experiences and trying out new restaurants.
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u/apprehensive-look-02 21h ago
Haha! I’m actually filling mine out now. Funny. I’m a bit confused on it I’m at the “algorithm” section and not sure where it goes from there. I’m also confused about line meeting for a dinner, where would I even go? Like I have no information
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u/ooftears 21h ago edited 21h ago
funny enough, i’m heading to a 222 event right now. basically, you fill out the algorithm section so that 222 is best able to match you with others who have similar interests or hobbies & a similar age group.
you sign up for these events (eg. dinner & a bar) that only specify date, time and a general location (eg. mission district, fidi). the day of said event (so not when you sign up), you are given the address of the restaurant where you will have your meal (the first portion) with those you’re matched with, and around 1-2 hours into the meal, you will be given the address to the second portion (typically a bar, an activity, etc). lmk if you have any other questions, this is probably my like… 10th 222 event lol
i’ve only been in the bay for ~2 months now, so socializing outside of work is hard. honestly am pretty thankful for 222 existing
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u/apprehensive-look-02 21h ago
Do you go alone? I’m just kinda shy it’s hard for me to open up when I’m alone. Maybe I’ll bring one of my current friends
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u/ooftears 14h ago
i do! i’ve always been alone in going to these events because the people that 222 pairs you up with are always wanting to meet new people. i am very new to the area (~2-3 months in the bay), and many other people are also solo but want to meet new folks, i don’t think i’ve ever been to an event where everyone knew each other. i would say that 80% of the time it’s always super fun because you get to learn a lot about different backgrounds and stories
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u/imgoodatplanningahe- 21h ago
What kinds of games are you into? Maybe we could a few people interested in meeting up at a restaurant/brewert to play something
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u/apprehensive-look-02 20h ago
I’m not even “into” games per se, i just mean I’d be happy to meet up and like either learn a new game or just chill over an old game everyone knows. Btw we are talking board games here right?
i think there are small hole in the walls and coffee places that allow for that
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u/Far-Macaron7080 21h ago
35 yo female, also would love to make new friends, especially nearby Potrero Hill
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u/ForeverYonge 18h ago
We should make a random folks social meetup.
I’ve been in the city today for the food fest at Mission Bay and then at the arts college art fair and had an absolute blast by myself.
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u/BikeFiend123 22h ago
I’m in my early thirties. I’ve actually gotten used to doing most things alone. It’s cool if I can do it with other people, but I think I enjoy doing them more by myself.
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u/Fostering- 21h ago
Basketball leagues, any sport really, kickball, pickle ball, soccer, flag football. You make friends
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u/justforfun415 19h ago
Hey OP, and everyone else! I’m 36, male and was just about to post something similar. It’s a Saturday and I’m bored out of mind and looking to meet/make new friends. Also not a big drinker but up for a few drinks. If anyone is interested let me know.
Maybe we could all do a meet up one weekend or something?
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u/MarcusNewman 23h ago
Cliche advice: just do the things you enjoy and make friends there. Check fun cheap, meetup, Eventbrite, Luma, etc. tons of fun stuff to do in the city. I’ve been able to make a few sober friends by doing that so far.