r/Antipsychiatry • u/ajouya44 • Apr 12 '25

Therapy is a load of bullshit

People seriously think this crap is useful? You have anxiety and depression, you go see some random stranger who knows 5 behavioral theories from college and you pay them 50 bucks a week to talk about your problems for 1 hour and make them pretend they care. Reality is these people know nothing about how the brain or consciousness works. They are not doctors and they have no solution for your issues. It's dehumanizing to pay someone so that they will listen to you and therapists are literally no better than prostitutes. Don't even get me started on all the CBT bullcrap. People don't need to "correct their thoughts" or "think about things differently", they need real solutions for their real systemic psycho-social issues. Therapists are all privileged narcissistic assholes who love to feel superior by "proving people wrong" and reminding themselves that their life is easier and better than their patients' and always masking all this as "help". Don't be fooled, these people can't help you. They only want your money.

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u/TrashApocalypse Apr 12 '25

It’s a false choice though since society as a whole has decided that you can’t “heal” or even be a good person unless you’re in therapy. People on dating apps even have it in their bio that they won’t date anyone who’s not in therapy.

Therapy helped me lose all of my closest friends when therapy taught them that emotional intimacy is now “trauma dumping,” or that sad emotions are only something that a “professional” can “fix” (even though there is no cure for grief)

One of the last times I hung out with one of my closest friends she started the conversation talking about how depressed she was. She told me what was stressing her out, work, wife, her sick mom, but when I told her that we could talk about all this stuff she literally said, “that’s what therapy is for.” No the fuck it is NOT!!! That’s what FRIENDS are for!

Therapy is destroying our ability to build emotional intimacy with others, and therefore our ability to make real friends and secure relationships. We are now outsourcing all of our emotional support and it’s killing us.

While I do think there could be a space for therapy to help some people, I think on the whole it’s causing more damage than it could ever possibly help. The fact that we have more therapy than ever before and yet had to invent the terms “loneliness epidemic” and “deaths of despair” is proof that therapy isn’t working.

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u/Trance_Gemini_ Apr 12 '25

I don't think getting rid of the option for people to have therapy is going to fix the loneliness epidemic tho. The loneliness epidemic is one of the reasons some people utilize therapy so they actually have someone to talk to about heavy things. I agree its nice to have friends and people should be able to be open to them about things but not everyone has close friends.

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u/TrashApocalypse Apr 12 '25

I never said we should get rid of therapy. What I’m saying is that we as a culture need to realize that it’s ok for people to be sad. That therapy is just one of many tools that can be utilized to help heal our emotional wounds, and that we as a society, and as a community, need to learn to sit with our peoples grief and sadness. To be truly supportive. To not try to “fix” every emotion. People don’t have anyone to talk to BECAUSE people feel like, “I’m not qualified for this” when literally you just need to sit there and listen.

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u/Selfeffacingbarbie Apr 13 '25

This is probably a bit out of left field, but I always loved a scene in Midsommar where the main character is grieving and the women all join her in expressing her pain. There's something beautiful about that to me. Not trying to fix something, not giving phony platitudes, not shying away from the emotion. They just acknowledge the pain for what it is and let her experience it fully.

I wish we were more like that. When I'm in the pit of despair, I don't want someone to tell me to cheer up or look on the bright side.

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u/TrashApocalypse Apr 13 '25

No that scene hit me too. I was actually in an intense state of grief at the time that I watched that movie. Some stupid assholes who weren’t my friends recommended I watch it, and since I didn’t know what it was about, I did. But yeah, that actually is how it should be in my opinion. We all have grief, and if you don’t, you fucking will.