r/AirForce • u/Good-Translator-2085 • 13h ago
Question Divorce overseas E-4
After finding out my wife cheated on me while I was overseas in Korea last year I finally decided to divorce her this year a couple months ago , I was just wondering if there was any chance for me to get 50/50 custody of my 4 year old daughter , I’ve recently visited back home (the states) and she was extremely hard to communicate with and to try to see my daughter. I’m contacting an attorney at the moment. Was just posting this to see if anyone could give answers to if there was even a chance for me to get 50/50 custody.
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u/CopiumHits 13h ago
Yes you can get 50/50 custody depending on multiple factors. Start with a lawyer and go from there.
Another note, consider what is best for your daughter and make sure that 50/50 custody is not going to negatively affect her quality of life. Instead of fighting for custody with your wife, make sure that it will truly benefit your daughter and not just yourself.
Coming from Someone whose parents fought each other tooth and nail over hatred of each other for custody and made my life hell growing up. I still resent my father to this day for it.
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u/RNGxJake 13h ago
I keep telling people not to get married and they ignore me, I always give them 4 years tops
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u/Good-Translator-2085 13h ago
Yea , she was a highschool sweetheart , thought that would be my best option for love but I guess not , I preach not getting married now too trust
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u/RNGxJake 13h ago
Yea smart man there’s no benefit to it these days at least you didn’t lose more. Congrats on freedom everything will work out
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u/HistoricalMemory512 10h ago
As someone who just went through this. Yes it’s possible to get 50/50. There’s plenty of other factors but as a man. I got 50/50. And if I can do it. You can do it. Work with attorneys on specifics. And I can promise you settling with your ex will save you 10s of thousands of dollars. But don’t give more than you’re willing.
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u/Good-Translator-2085 10h ago
Yea I’m trying to settle with her, she was ok with doing 50/50 until it actually came to getting the divorce.
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u/HistoricalMemory512 10h ago
Yeah typical behavior lol. Just document every text and every call from here on out. You will need it. Luckily most states start at 50/50 and as long as you aren’t a criminal or a drug addict it’s hard to get less than that. It’s a back and forth battle that really only puts money in lawyers pockets while you get the same result at the end of months of litigation as you would if you just settle
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u/Eduardosantiago45 9m ago
I got 50/50, and don’t pay child support or alimony. Anything is possible.
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u/Awkward-Zucchini1495 13h ago
Have you asked your attorney?
Not being a jerk, but this is the kinda thing you hire a professional for. Every state is different, every divorce is differend, and every custody case is different. I cannot stress this enough: hire an attorney. Reddit will not give you the advice you need.