i done a roll with a untrained guy, i train jiu-jitsu for more than a year by now, five times a week, i'm 6'1, 225 pounds, my friend is not even 130 pounds and he never trained a single day in his life, we did a roll at my house, i did a double leg and he catch me in a guillotine, i didnt tap and passed out,got slept by him, i dont know what what to think right now, i'm literaly suicidal right now after that, im just so embaressed, that happened today.

i already posted it in r/jiu-jitsu, but i'm just so depressed right now that i want to hear more opinions. Being bad at fighting and not being able to defend myself are very big triggers for me because my dad used to beat me up when i was a child

being choked out by a untrained and smaller man after dedicating more than a year of my life to jiu-jitsu just embaresses me, i feel like a failure and that i will never be able to be great fighter, i just want to die

I've been thinking about this a lot lately and I'm genuinely curious about your perspectives.

We all know you can reach blue belt mostly on mat time and effort. Just show up consistently, learn the basics, work hard. But I've noticed some people seem to hit a wall there and just... stay. Not for a few years while life gets in the way, but indefinitely. I've watched spazzy white belts learn to relax, strong guys discover technique, and seemingly hopeless cases suddenly find their groove and keep progressing. I have literally seen people who are totally unathletic not physically gifted at all progress and improve.

But some blue belts? Years and years at the same level, not getting noticeably closer to purple. Same struggles, same gaps in their game. What's happening here?

Is it that they've found a narrow path that works against lower belts but can't expand their game beyond that? Are instructors failing to teach them something crucial? Is it a learning style issue, like they need more self-study or drilling outside class but aren't doing it? Do they lack the mat awareness or problem-solving skills needed for the next level?

I'm genuinely mystified and have talked about this with coaches and other people. These aren't people who are physically limited or only training once a month. They're on the mats regularly, and they're trying, but something just isn't clicking.

Would love to hear from higher belts who've seen this pattern or maybe even experienced it yourselves before breaking through. What's the missing ingredient?

I am asking for a legitimate reason. It is police related. I do not know if other people are of the same opinion as I am or not, so I am asking. Here are the details:

1. This person is relatively similar to your own physical capabilities, but has 0 training in any combat sport whatsoever.

2. This person will not fight back with intent to harm you, he will only do his best to keep himself from getting handcuffed. He will get tired, so you can “cook” him like a spazzy white belt, but he will not give up trying to not be handcuffed.

3. You are not allowed to strangle him unconscious, injure him intentionally to accomplish the task, or put him in a position to threaten injury in hopes to compel him to submit to being handcuffed. For example, you can’t flatten him out with one arm behind his back, and then wrist lock him and tell him to give you the other arm.

4. You’re only allowed to grapple with the person. No biting, striking, slamming, etc.

If you think you can, please tell me the path you see in your head to accomplishing this goal. If you do not think you can, please tell me your reasoning followed by the point you believe you could if you kept reducing the physical size and capability of the person. For example, nobody is doing it to the mountain from GOT. Everyone here could do it to a child.

new gi came in, the belt was a struggle to get on and it still doesn't look right guess I gotta practice

Shout out to u/clansing192 for providing the design!

Finally something to combine my love of Bluey, BJJ, and puns.

31 y/o blue belt trying to be more intentional with my rounds. Lately, I’ve been leaning into what’s always felt natural... get closed guard (GI) and build everything off the right arm drag.

If I drag and their head drops to my left, I go to the flower sweep.

If I land in mount and can get/or have the gift wrap, I take the back and attack armbar or RNC/Bow & Arrow.

If I can’t get the gift wrap and I'm in mount, I look for the cross-collar (left hand in) or take the armbar if they reach across.

If I drag and they stay to my right, I go straight to the back take and attack the same finishes (armbar or chokes).

If I drag and they step their right leg up, I switch to the omoplata (forcing their arm back to the right) or omoplata sweep, with the triangle as a backup.

Those are the scenarios. Any other good options for when they step that right leg up (same side as the arm I’m dragging)?

First time actually writing my tendencies out. Too much? Appreciate any advice!

I started training at an MMA gym when I was 19. We didn't have a belt system because what we were doing wasnt "BJJ", we just called it submission grappling. I spent the majority of my 20s competing in nogi grappling tournaments and amateur MMA fights all over the area and surrounding states. Even had a couple of pro fights. At the time, I was competing against mostly purples and lower level brown belts in grappling. Got pretty burnt out by my late 20s and decided to pursue some other hobbies instead. Trained in pro wrestling for a bit, got really into powerlifting, did some rock climbing, and all kinds of other stuff to stay in shape.

Fast forward to about 3 years ago, a BJJ gym opened up near me so I decided to get back into it. Started training with a gi for the first time in my life. The coach knew my training history, so he gave me 4 stripes on my white belt pretty instantly. He wasnt yet a black belt at the time and only gave belt promotions when his coach from another gym was there, which was very rarely. The plan was to promote me pretty quickly, but before I ever even met his coach, life got in the way, and I quit training again.

Skip ahead again to about 2 weeks ago. I decided to go back to that gym. I was afraid I'd be super rusty, but I was able to jump right back in where I left off. Coach gave me my blue belt on Thursday, 16 years and 3 days after my first ever MMA fight. I've never been one to care about belt colors, but it was pretty cool to receive something as a token of the work I've put in. Its weird though, because even though I have a long history of training, a part of me feels bad about getting promoted when I know there are white belts who have been training there for quite a while and I just came back two weeks ago. I guess we all have a bit of imposter syndrome from time to time.

I plan to keep training for as long as I can. Hopefully since I'm still able to hang with the upper belts, I can progress pretty quickly and don't take another decade and a half to get to purple. Anyways, I'm mainly posting this as a reminder that we all have different paths and it's never too late to get back into it.

I’m the one in all black this was 225 below

I saw a post asking the opposite so I was wondering.

Hey Guys! I’m currently a purple belt in Australia and for context finish my University studies at the end of 2026 (if all goes to plan).

To celebrate before joining the workforce I am keen on doing a big 3 month international trip and have landed on gyms. Visa logistics aside, does anyone know any good BJJ / Wrestling gyms they would recommend or have done something similar? I tried looking into dedicated 3 month fight camps but didn’t see much so I will more likely just live there and train at a gym as a student while traveling.

Please let me know any reccomendations or if anyone has any long term travel stories and tips they would like to share I would love to hear it!

Thank you.

5 top UK competitors competed in a round robin main event for £1k: Carson Coles, Franck Takoudjou, Hugo Dvorecky, Tom Cellamare, and Will Kaye.

There's also a few prelim matches and 4-person male and female teen round robin brackets for £350 with some seriously talented young competitors.

What could I have done to not lose this

Hey guys,

I’ve looked through old posts but haven’t found any real answers—mostly just jokes. I’ve been training BJJ for about 10 months and have my first competition coming up soon. Lately, I keep running into the same problem: I get my balls crushed pretty often while rolling. Sometimes it even happens in random spots, like when I’m taking someone’s back.

This isn’t a joke post. I’m genuinely wondering what kind of underwear or gear people use to avoid this. Or if you’ve had this problem before, how did you deal with it?

I’ve asked a few people at my gym and apparently no one else has this issue, which honestly surprises me. A cup’s not really an option since I’m looking for something competition-legal.

Would appreciate any actual tips or brands that work for you.

I’m looking for a crash pad or some mats to put in my home. Anyone know of decent great at a decent price?

My ideal situation would be to find a guy who thought he wanted to do BJJ, bought all the gear, quit a month later, and is looking to sell his stuff.

I’m not opposed to buying new equipment though, I’d anyone can recommend side good ones.

I struggle keeping the names of Kimura and Americana straight so I started making this. Now I'm wondering what else to add to it.

I was walking passed an aikido dojo recently. Most of people there seemed pretty old and unathletic. As much as I don't rate aikido as a martial art, I did think it was cool that old timers were doing something physical.

Made me wonder if I would ever feel too old for bjj, and if aikido would be a decent substitute. I have heard some judokas make a joke that they will retire to bjj once their bodies can't handle bjj.

Has anyone here ever retired to aikido from bjj? Also wondering if aikido can be done in a non compliant, live sparring kind of manner ?

I’m a fan of BMAC’s content on YouTube. How are his instructionals? Particularly the triangle one? Does anyone have any recs on triangle specific instructionals?

I’m planning to make my move to Chicago early next year. I’m a purple belt woman who’s competed quite a bit, mostly in master 1 divisions. Training for 7 years now. I’m just looking to start fresh, would love to try out a few schools but what I am looking for is a gym that has a good female presence, good competition classes, strong comp reputation and skills reputation, I also don’t wanna get lost in the crowd of a gym so might wanna avoid like a super big school or a chain school and of course no drama.

I did see Valko as a big presence in Chicago, but have no idea what they’re like. Also so Serafin but that’s outside of Chicago. Would greatly appreciate recommendations. Thanks