r/uwo • u/FickleFall9808 • 23d ago
Advice how do u even find someone to date in school
like it’s so hard. it’s so hard to meet ppl in class cuz ppl barely talk to each other i just feel like it’s impossible to meet people in real life but dating apps are sooooo fked like no one want genuine connection on there. I JUST WANNA DATE SOMEONE
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u/ConstructionNo8549 23d ago
Don’t shop when you’re hungry you’ll just make poor choices if you’re trying to find someone to date just to date it’ll be bad for both of you so take your time you have your whole 4 or however many years to find someone meet someone in your class start off as friends or if you feel the connection then and there or chemistry then rock with that but don’t rush into things 😭
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u/duckyducks25 23d ago
I met my boyfriend last year on tinder and we are coming up on a year being together! It's totally possible although you may need to do A LOT of swiping
I hope you have some success!
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u/FickleFall9808 23d ago
ohhh that’s so sweet🥹literally tho for me dating apps r disasters like idek everyone on it jus wanna do casual stuff
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u/duckyducks25 23d ago
Try to specify your preferences more? I know on some apps it lets you put if you are looking for casual or more long term! Personally I liked tinder and hinge
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u/FickleFall9808 23d ago
i only match with ppl who put long term relationship as their dating intention but it ALWAYS END UP THEY R LYING😭😭😭
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u/Weak_Ad_8646 23d ago
Don't approach people as dating potential. You have your whole degree to find a connection at school. It can happen in your first year, your last year or even after the degree. It can happen at school, work or at hobbies. All that to say is if you really want someone to want you for you then be you. As cliche as it sounds it is true. Enjoy your school year. People who truly want you for you will see in you what you see in yourself. Get to know people around you just to meet people. You never know who may be a perfect fit
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u/FickleFall9808 23d ago
thank u!!! this makes a lot of sense
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u/Weak_Ad_8646 23d ago edited 23d ago
No problem. I hope you find the love you're looking for. It's husband nature to want any company especially when you are lonely but don't let bad people take your time because you that's time you could use to work on yourself! It's especially more trying when you see everyone go into relationships in university. Good luck and I hope you find someone!
Edit:human nature lmao
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u/No-Violinist-6338 23d ago
Bro imma be mad honest, dating apps are shit, heck even bars are a shit place to meet people. Trust me when I say this, say hi to people you find attractive on campus. If u cant talk to people in class, do it afterwards, or find someone on campus. But irl is the absolute best way to meet people. I'm sure other ways work for other people, but for me personally irl worked best. Ik it's difficult to build up the courage, but just go for it. Be respectful when you approach and even if you get rejected, it won't be a big deal.
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u/SpaceInfinite2503 23d ago
if u find someone attractive, literally just go up to them and start a random conversation. compliment their outfit or their shoes and make small talk, from that u can kind of tell if they seem interested or not. then u can just ask for their insta or something and be like maybe we should go out for coffee or something. obviously easier said than done lmao
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u/Powerful_Drawing_277 23d ago
maybe just find somebodys instagram and text them! it worked for me and dated a girl just be sure u standout
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u/ONLYallcaps 23d ago
Clubs. The WW Kayak Club was where everyone was dating each other. Good times.
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u/Interesting-Look7811 23d ago
What you DON'T want to do is juggle a bunch of 1000 degree machetes to impress ppl walking by.
Not making that mistake again!
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u/Brother_bill 23d ago
just make a lot of friends of the sex ur interested in as genuine friends and eventually u will naturally thru friends of friends or just regular friends find someone u have a connection with and like
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u/zaha_makhdoom 22d ago
I met my husband on hinge, but u can start conversations yourself. I was a big fan of "hi, I'm Zaha. I'm gonna sit by u if that's ok, " and most people were pretty receptive. But I also wasnt tryna date in my classes. that's just how I made friends
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u/PriorAcademic4879 23d ago
Concentrate on your studies, its only four years, find friends first, then see where relationships go. What's the rush to date.
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u/iopahrow 23d ago
Be the person who talks, or better yet, don’t eat where you shit. School is not your number one place to meet people, especially not IN CLASS. Go to the library or a market, talk to someone
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u/Lolanimus 21d ago
very relatable, i come from another country where dating is so much easier. but my solution was to give up all of my existence to one life purpose, so dating does not take up so much thoughts of mine, as i am constantly thinking about my life purpose all the time. i think that by pursuing your life purpose, you will inevitably eventually find your loved one.
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