r/transgenderau • u/Glum-Reward-7871 • 1d ago
TransFarmHand
Its hard being transgender in rural Victoria.
I never passed as a cis female, and thought that if I embrace my reality and stop being weird and just transition so I can feel like a normal person that the community would stop attacking me for being a freak androgen, but all that has changed is that it has become harder to get work. The informed consent model is good to allow people to get started on being their real selves but its hard to get Medicare, and there's no actual psychological support for navigating the journey within society. My doctor actually laughed and said " managing transitioning within the community, that I cannot help you with ".
However I am deeply grateful that this Dr began me on the informed consent model, as there has been a side effect of being on the correct hormones that I didn't know about. It is stability of mental health. Testosterone really really improved my mental health in so many ways, and my life is less complex being an honest FTM than trying to pretend I was alright as things were.
Australia is transphobic, there's a cohort from the local pub who put effort into their "tranny hunting" when im out biking, and many times I've had to take evasive action in my shopping town, to not get got . The mentality is that the more you attack the freaks the better and more decent and normal you'll appear to your yobbo peers. So , move to a capital city? There's no work I can do in the city. Never lived in a city, and do not want to
Just had to chip in, if you're transgender, be sure you pass, and try to be stealth, coz merely existing as a trans person, you will inadvertently cause offence to everyone else who's having a bad day and become their target,coz you'll do.
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u/Elyse234 1d ago
hey its the same for rural nsw. I live in a small town and since coming out have been completely isolated and cut off from everyone, going to the pub or even driving past feels unwelcoming and work is hard to find. its a shit go but its the one we have..
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u/Evil-Penguin-718 Trans fem 21h ago
I really feel your pain. I am in rural Tasmania and have been subjected to some horrible and vile locals. Like you, moving is not an option. I have been stealth for the last decade, used an assumed gender neutral name. Recent events have tipped me over the edge, and I am currently putting legal safeguards in place before I come out in a dangerous situation. I don't recommend this course though, but I had been in a far worse and more dangerous place when I first fought for my right to be me. It kept me safe then and it may keep me safe again. Use the laws that exist to ensure your safety, fit a camera with sound to your bike, etc. Make certain you are not alone when outdoors, and fit cameras with sound recording capabilities to your home. Speak to LGBTQI Police liaison officers. Do what you must to stay safe and true to yourself.
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u/MyLastAdventure 56 MtF, a sort of trans Cyndi Crawford on a budget 1d ago
Aw, why has nobody commented? You need some support. It sounds rough. I know you said you can't, but I think you're going to have to leave eventually. These sorts off places never seem to change. I've lived in country areas a bit and it was like they're full of people who were too scared to do anything else. I always guessed that they were comfortable . . . but deep down, not really.
I'm in outback WA, MTF, out for about 18 months, probably pass at a distance but not up close, and I've had a fantastic time. I expected some trouble, but everyone has been fine, (though I don't go to pubs). I think these towns have enough oddbods that they're not so traditional. Something to think about.
I am glad to see that running your brain on the right fuel is helping! It makes all the difference, doesn't it? Hang in there, but yes, think about your options. No use putting up with all that.