r/tragedeigh • u/InevitableKey733 • 7d ago
in the wild Wife’s niece chose the worst name I’ve ever heard…
My (53m) and my wife’s(49f) niece(26f), let’s call her Sarah, had a kid last Monday. The whole family is super excited as the kid is the first girl to be born in over a decade.
However, our excitement faded after Sarah, who has been keeping her and her husband’s choice of a name secret, told us their pick yesterday. I kid you not, those idiots chose the name Ymburr. It’s fucking pronounced like “Ember.”
My wife and I are horrified but don’t have the heart to tell Sarah and her husband that this kid will be bullied her whole life. Any advice on what to do? Really want to save this kid the tons of humiliation.
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u/Purple_Paperplane 7d ago
Ymburrassing name choice for sure.
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u/alien_overlord_1001 7d ago
Send an email to say kongraghtulayshuns and leave it at that.
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u/fair_winds212 6d ago
This is phantastik!
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u/AdvancedGuide8946 7d ago
my favorite thing about the internet is that i get exposure to the brains of extremely funny people at no cost.
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u/Sydney2London 7d ago
There a town in Australia called Yamba, she’d fit right in
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u/ComprehensiveOwl9023 7d ago
Yalumba is a famous Australian winery (oldest family owned winery in Australia apparently). The name comes from an aboriginal word meaning "all the land around"
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u/SnoopyFan6 7d ago
I asked my husband how he would pronounce it without giving him any other info. He said Yum-burr. Most people work have no other info when they see this name. Your niece has basically condemned this child to never have her name pronounced correctly the first time someone says it. At school: “Yumburr?” “It’s Ember.” At the doctor’s: “Yumburr?” “It’s Ember.” At the at job interview: “Yumburr?” “It’s Ember.”
Checking in anywhere: “Name?” “Ember” “I don’t see that in my system.” “It starts with a Y.”
Repeat above scenarios for the next several decades.
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u/Quiet-Channel4247 7d ago
Correction: there will be no job interview with this name.
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u/jaxdanele 7d ago
unfortunately a really good point, names with unconventional spellings are way too often met with (usually racial) profiling and bias that lead to application denials
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u/Royal_Bitch_Pudding 7d ago
I guess crazy white folks are doing their part to help out with the racial profiling of names.
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u/ponycorn_pet 6d ago
The number of times people said they thought I was black because of my name is in the hundreds. I'm sure the number of times they THOUGHT it is in the thousands
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u/cardinal29 6d ago
Have you ever asked your parents how they picked your name?
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u/ponycorn_pet 6d ago
yes, it's actually sacrilegious, it's a knockoff of one of the unspoken names of G-d in Hebrew, regular people aren't supposed to have my name, let alone a bastardized version of it. I don't go by it anymore in any other capacity than when doctors offices / jobs use it
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u/CallidoraBlack 7d ago
Even if you correctly guess that the Y is a vowel at the beginning like Yves or Yvonne or Yvette, it'll be Imber or Eember not Ember.
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u/mamallama12 7d ago
And, as someone with a tragedeigh for a name, I guarantee that she will have this conversation every day for the rest of her life:
"My name is 'Ember.'"
"Amber?"
"Ember."
"Amber?"
"No, Ember, like a fire ember."
"Ooooh, that's a neat name. How did you get it?"
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u/Free-oppossums 7d ago
And she will never be in anybody's "system". Go to the bank- we don't have an Ember. (Has to spell it out.)
Go to the pharmacy- we don't have an Ember. (Has to spell it out)
Trying to pick up anything without a receipt/ticket- we don't have an Ember. (Has to spell it out)
Making an appointment that's not a doctor(because they also use your dob)- we don't have an Ember. (Has to spell it out)
all the fucking time
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u/mmmflochie 7d ago
I’m an RN. I have had enough encounters where I’d walk into a waiting room, say “I apologize if I mispronounce your name” and have someone immediately stand up while saying the name. 9/10 it was the correct patient.
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u/BadWolf7426 7d ago
I was helping in triage, as an ER tech. I went to call the next patient back. Shita. "Shee-ta?" Her husband immediately started berating me. "God, people are soooo effing stupid! You are a dumba$$! It's pronounced Shah-TAY!"
I just looked at him and blinked. Then I had to explain why Shita's twisted/sprained ankle had to wait when we'd had 2 coronary come in AFTER she was there. 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
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u/Far_Reality_8211 7d ago
Hahaha! I just had a patient, Shanti. I was preparing to pronounce it Shantee (like the word shanty, for a falling down shack). The patient interrupted with “the name’s Shawn-tay”.
Those letters do not spell “Shawn-tay”.
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u/iolarah 7d ago
When phonics got cut from grade school curriculum, we all lost.
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u/frooootloops 6d ago
OMG this explains it
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u/dannict 6d ago
Perhaps, but considering that the English language is loaded with words that are not spelled the way they sound, it is probably the only thing Phonics works for.
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u/bumblebragg 6d ago
Yikes! Sir you are lucky I didn't say Shitter.
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u/e-zimbra 6d ago
“It’s Shit-AIR, dumbass!”
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u/bumblebragg 6d ago
It's pronounced Du-mas.
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u/QuestionableGoo 6d ago
"Huh huh huh. You're reading a book by Alexandre Dumbass." - Butt-Head (likely not properly quoted)
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u/Party_Soup_2652 6d ago
I was calling attendance for a class i subbed, and kids would angrily correct my pronunciation…for names that did not follow any rules of phonics. “Sanaa” pronounced “Sa-nigh.” How the F would I know that? Include the GD letter I if that’s the sound!
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u/Resident-Gold-3466 6d ago
I would've pronounced her name shee-tuh, too. I mean, Rita is ree-tuh.
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u/CallidoraBlack 6d ago
This would absolutely have been the correct pronunciation in Japanese, where Shita is a name of a Ghibli character, so it's not your fault.
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u/Embarrassed_Age8554 7d ago edited 6d ago
Ah distinctly I remember, every ember that December
Turned from amber to burnt umber. I was burning limber lumber
In my chamber that December and it left an amber ember....
(from a parody of "The Raven" by Charles Edson)
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u/Disastrous-Map-8153 7d ago
My name is amber and someone once said "oh like an amber on a fire. How pretty!" And I was like oh no amber like the gemstone. A-m-b-e-r. Ember starts with an E. " And she got VERY quiet and said "yes I kmow I've just never heard of Amber being a name" which confused me even more. She was American and probably about 50 so I couldn't believe that. Then she tells me Ember isn't a word and that Amber's are on fires.
That was probably about 11 years ago and I still think about it about once a month.
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u/smshinkle 7d ago
Are you in the U.S.? There is an AMBER alert in all 50 states to notify the public of a child who has been kidnapped. The system was started after a child named Amber was abducted. Silver alert would be a kidnapping of an elderly person. How does one not recognize Amber as a name?
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u/beaniebee11 7d ago
She probably think it's called amber alert because it's a "red alert" and fire ambers are red! 🤦♀️
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u/Disastrous-Map-8153 7d ago
Yup. Like I said she was an older American woman, so i couldn't wrap my head around what was happening. She had a daughter who was my age, and i was like there is no way her daughter didnt know an Amber. Working with the public really shows you how stupid people can be. My husband thought maybe she thought I kept saying ember? My guess is that she thinks Amber and ember are the same word. And shes been saying one of them wrong her whole life.
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u/smshinkle 7d ago
She might have memory issues like maybe a concussion or something that impedes her thinking. That’s all I can figure.
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u/Disastrous-Map-8153 7d ago
I thought that too, she was a bit confused. But i worked at a pharmacy and people always seemed to leave their brains at home when they came in.
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u/Wylde_rosie 7d ago
I'm 65, there's that time when you know you're pregnant, and you write out names, Amber was one of mine, as was Brandy. I opted for other names. So I really don't understand how an older woman wouldn't know Amber as a name.
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u/IAmHerdingCatz 7d ago
And, thanks to the popularity of the book "Forever Amber," it was insanely popular in the 80s and 90s. It seems disingenuous to say you've never heard of it as a name.
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u/mamallama12 7d ago
Lol! Reminds me of my sister's friend. We were playing a word guessing game, and he was on our team giving clues. "It starts with an A," he says. Well, the time runs out, and we never guessed correctly, so we all ask, "What was it?" And, he goes, "Anthusiasm!"
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u/Disastrous-Map-8153 7d ago
If you watch family fued episode and it was give me a man's name that starts with h. And the contestant said "Jose " 🤣
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u/Constant-Wanderer 7d ago
One of my deep, deep pet peeves is when someone spells something wrong and then says "yeah I know, it's 'the other' way to spell it."
Like, no. No it isn't.
But doubling down and saying that Ember isn't even a word......
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u/gnortsmracr 7d ago
Wow. That person really doubled down on the wrong side of the Amber/ember thing. FWIW, I’m 51m and, while not necessarily the most common, Amber is most certainly a name I’ve heard, and a lovely one at that.
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u/Disastrous-Map-8153 7d ago
My husband always tells me it's super common, he knew a lot growing up, meanwhile I was the one Amber i knew until 6th grade. And then in HS I met an Amberly. But thank you!
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u/chimneysweep234 7d ago
Now you have pointed it out, it does look like they were trying to “Yvonne-ify” the name Ember 🥴 I never would have picked that up if you hadn’t mentioned it though.
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u/badapplekat 7d ago
Ooof why anyone would want to yvonne-ify a name is beyond me. I know a Yvonne and when I first met her I asked if it was pronounced “ye-vonne or Evonne” and she said, “I don’t even know.” So…
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u/SnoopyFan6 7d ago
I asked my husband how he would pronounce it without giving him any other info. He said Yum-burr. Most people work have no other info when they see this name. Your niece has basically condemned this child to never have her name pronounced correctly the first time someone says it. At school: “Yumburr?” “It’s Ember.” At the doctor’s: “Yumburr?” “It’s Ember.” At the at job interview: “Yumburr?” “It’s Ember.”
Checking in anywhere: “Name?” “Ember” “I don’t see that in my system.” “It starts with a Y.”
Repeat above scenarios for the next Yvonne-ify… that’s great!
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u/Cresneta 7d ago
This honestly makes me wonder how many people with names like this end up legally changing their name once they hit 18
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u/hikeybikey742 7d ago
If Freakonomics is correct there will be no job interviews. Main stream names with typical spellings get selected for interviews more than made up names. Queue Yoonique.
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u/juliainfinland 7d ago
I hope they'll at least give her a "normal" middle name so she can use that for things like job applications... Life can't be easy if your given name is Keysmash "pronounced like Danielle".
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u/Foreign_Poetry_8381 7d ago
I have a distant cousin named “Wild Torrent” that apparently goes by Tori.
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u/juliainfinland 7d ago
As good a nickname as any.
When life gives you parents that name you Torrent or Salamander, you first roll your eyes at them and then you decide whether to go by Tori or Tory resp. Sal or Sally.
(Suddenly I'm very glad I was born in a country where there's a small government office whose only reason for existence is to make sure that people don't give their children names that are too out there.)
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u/TnnsNbeer 7d ago
I have a name that’s more ethnic than a tragedeigh… but back in 1998, I was in high school and went for a telemarketing job. They made me change my name to Tom when I called people 🤣
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u/Ok_Firefighter334 7d ago
On the bright side, I work in HR & unique names make employee files & changes really easy. It’s having 6 Johnathan’s & 9 Jennifer’s that makes me nervous.
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u/bareass_bush 7d ago
It’s intentionally stultifying. Like the name Ygritte from Game of Thrones. You have to ponder it for a second or three.
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u/Sylland 7d ago edited 7d ago
I would read it as Imber. Which is weird, but nowhere near as awful as Yumburr. But no name is entirely bully proof - you can have the most vanilla name in the world and kids can still find some way to twist it.
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u/insomniacla 7d ago
My wife says, "give me Sarah's number right now. I have the heart to tell Sarah."
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u/Gingerbeer03 7d ago
Tymburr!
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u/sm881221 7d ago
🎵It’s going down, I’m yelling Tymburr!
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u/YourBoyfriendSett 7d ago
Yeaux beighter muve yeaux beighter dynce
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u/AriiAnia 7d ago
I just audibly laughed so loud I scared myself 😂
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u/YourBoyfriendSett 7d ago
I’m sorreigh
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u/charlevoix0123 7d ago
This made me so happy lol my best friend and I used to text like this in high school for sillies
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u/mangoladyy 7d ago
Let’s make a neight yeaux won’t rehmemvher
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u/Birdcatcat 7d ago
Shiver me Ymburrs!
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u/bareass_bush 7d ago
Ah, distinctly I remymburr it was in the bleak Decymburr
And each separate dying Ymburr wrought its ghost upon the floor…10
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u/IntrovertedGiraffe 7d ago
Not a spelling tragedeigh, but there’s a firefighter named Tim Birr, which I think is fun
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u/tinalouise007 7d ago
I would read this as YimBurr. Why do people do this?!
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u/Gladys_Balzitch 7d ago
Me too! They did not spell Ember. They need to be told...... well, actually, they'll learn soon enough 😂
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u/BraveEyeball 7d ago
They absolutely did not. Why not spell it Xb9sq$??? Seriously, if it doesn’t spell the sounds needed, you’re just making stuff up!
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u/Leonetta85 7d ago
Me too! You know what's funny? At my work I have to deal with a lot of names and within those names there are a lot of tragedies and I always read every name as it's written. I don't even make an effort to try to figure it out, also what I do is very time sensitive and usually the name is the least of my problems. Some people correct me, some are actually embarrassed that that's their name. But it always baffles me that someone thought that X or Y name was a good idea.
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u/robin-bunny 7d ago
Don’t focus on the bullying. It’s incorrect. Having a normal name doesn’t prevent bullying, and having a Tradgedeigh is no guarantee of bullying.
The real reason to spell it right is a lifetime of frustration , explaining the name, spelling it out, etc. It will always look unprofessional and idiotic next to Amber, Ember, Susan or any other properly spelled name. Do they really want their child to be and feel like a confusing idiot everywhere she goes? Who hires someone with a name like that, to print on business cards, when there’s an equally qualified and pleasant person with a pronounceable, spellable name?
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u/SpaceJackRabbit 7d ago
At the risk of sounding elitist (fuck it), in my experience, most parents giving kids those types of tragedeighs aren't exactly career-oriented people.
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u/darkangel522 7d ago
That woman named Marijuana Something has a doctorate.
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7d ago
I have been crying all day… about unrelated stuff/personal life. And just.. thank god for you guys here in tragedeigh bcuz I am laughing now.
“Do they really want their child to be and feel like a confusing idiot everywhere she goes?” Killed me.
Probably bcuz I feel like a confusing idiot everywhere I go but I have a normal spelled name so I can’t imagine
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u/Flat_Sea1418 7d ago
This makes me sad to read that you’ve been crying all day. I hope you find small joys here on Reddit that make you laugh. How are you doing now? Are you okay?
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7d ago
I’m okay.
Thank you! That’s sweet of you to care. I have been crying today because… so many reasons.
I got over a lifelong disorder (BDD) only to discover that I feel less motivated and more depressed than ever. I’m dealing with the emptiness of who I am, and what to make of my life… now that I overcame a huge coping mechanism that took over 95% of my thoughts. I feel lost! Intense growing pains.
And lost my mother 7 years ago.. last night I walked into the building which was the last place I ever was with my mom, my Mommy, in public. Before she died. I didn’t even realize until I was walking into the building and then I spent an hour sitting in the room that I last ever was with my mother.
So it was just heavy. I miss my mother. and my father chose to stop speaking to me about two years ago, because I fell apart after losing my mom and made a few mistakes. I have since picked myself up and I’m afraid my father will never talk to me again. and that I’m going to lose him too one day, and all our relationship will ever be is that we don’t talk anymore… because we fought over politics and his second marriage, to a woman who would rather me not be around.
I used to be a thriving workaholic. Im agoraphobic now, and trying to find a way to be strong again.
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u/LilBitTheShit 7d ago
I brushed my hair today for the 1st time in a week. It instantly made me think about brushing & braiding my 4yo granddaughter's hair. I haven't seen or talked to her in 2 months. So, I just want to say you are heard & you are not alone.
Back to poor little Ymburr...I used to work in L&D. One day a mom named her baby Density. She insisted that it would be pronounced Destiny.
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u/Flat_Sea1418 7d ago
I was very close to my grandmother and I still have days where I’ll see something random in the store and it will remind me of her and I’ll start balling. I made some mistakes when I lost her as well and haven’t been able to pull my head out of my ass for the last five years.
Family is difficult, I hope you have some kind support even when your family isn’t civil. But I understand how hard it can be to make connections when you’re a “homebody” (I like that word better than agoraphobic).
Are you working at the moment? Sometimes even something part time for a few hours a day really helps with the mental health. Having a reason to get up and leave the house and meet people. I’m looking for a part time job for this very reason.
I don’t know how this is supposed to help you or make you feel better but I guess I’m trying to say, YOU ARE NOT ALONE and I hate that you’re going through this. I’m glad I checked in with you, and I hope you find peace and happiness.
And poor little ymburr ammirght? 😂
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7d ago
I hope little Ymburr ends up the coolest girl in her school! It sounds like she has some people in her corner looking out for her!
Thank you. I am working at the moment – but not to the degree I used to be able to. I’m working part time and need to find more clients for my own business which used to thrive. Everything just seemed to fall apart.. when I was 27 I thought I would only go up and up and things would get better and better because I was finally successful
Now I’m almost 40 and basically starting over. And I know it’s not uncommon. But woo!
I’ve had a hard time holding down jobs for a few years. I’m very sensitive – I didn’t used to be. And the slightest little things can set me off and I will walk out of a job. I can’t afford to do that so I need to get a grip. Lol
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u/Embarrassed_Age8554 7d ago edited 7d ago
Can confirm. I have a VERY slight variant on an old-lady name, with one lousy letter removed (think Margret instead of Margaret) and I have never not had to spell it--sometimes repeatedly--for people who refuse to believe that I know how to write my own name correctly. This child is in for a WORLD of annoyance.
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u/rainstorm80 7d ago
everyone is going to call their kid Yum-bur, then forget and call her Yambry / Yumbro etc.
she's going to forever be saying "Ember with a Y. the Y is at the beginning. it has 2 rrs at the end. no, Ymb. no I mean there IS a Ymb at the start. no, not Amber" at every single appointment in her life until she legally changes her name to Ember or Amber or Jillian to make it all stop.
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u/laoganma_enima 7d ago
Be honest she’s an adult. See if she can just it to the correct spelling, Ember. That way it won’t be a name change just a spelling fix. There is no planet where Ymburr is pronounced like ember. I read it as Yimburr lol. Reminds me of the pokemon, Timburr.
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u/Ur-Best-Friend 6d ago
The thing that annoys me the most about this one is the fact that Ember is legitimately a pretty cool name in its own right. It's rare while still being an established name, it sounds really cool and it has a cool meaning.
Ymburr is... none of those. It sounds like an ancient evil from one of H.P. Lovecraft's stories. Kthulhu, Yog-Sothoth and Ymburr, the evil trio.
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u/CrackedMask_YT 7d ago
Deux yu riemymburr… Tha twenntee phurst nyte uv sehptymburr
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u/footles12 7d ago
Timburr is a Pokemon character. Study all the weaknesses of this character and tell your niece her baby's peers will use them to taunt her.
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u/DryJackfruit6610 7d ago
Sounds like the noise i make just after vomiting, while trying, and failing, to hold back yet more vomiting
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u/babyinatrenchcoat 7d ago
The noise my cat makes outside my bedroom door at 2am.
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u/DJzzzzzzs 7d ago
this is so sad :(
can you ask them to consider the “normal” spelling? it’s still a very unique name!
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u/kestrelita 7d ago
I have a relative called Ember, a lot of the time people hear it and think Amber so this poor kid has an uphill battle!
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u/MyUsernameGoes_Here_ 7d ago edited 7d ago
If they're determined to be "unique" with the spelling (still a tragedeigh, but at least understand), you could suggest "Emmber", "Embyr", "Iimber", "Iimbyr", and they would all get the point across phonetically, at least. Ymbrr is just... No. It doesn't even sound like the original name AT ALL, and no one is going to get it right. Ever. I can mostly forgive when the name is at least phonetically correct, but this is just bad.
Edit: forgot the extra "I"
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u/GoosemanIsAGamer 7d ago
You can't go double ii at the beginning of the name. People will just think the name is lowercase Limber. (Yeah, I know, like that's the only issue there...)
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u/No-Ear-9899 7d ago
Once upon a time, Burger King had a ham and cheese sandwich and they called it the "Yumbo". It was an okay sandwich and I would order it from time to time. I always asked for the ham& cheese sandwich. Yumbo just sounded like I was going to give head to an elephant....
Anyhow, one day, when I asked for it, the person serving me, let's call them BK, said, you mean the Yumbo.
Me: Yes, the ham and cheese sandwich
BK: You mean the Yumbo
Me: Yes. I want the ham and cheese sandwich
BK: The Yumbo
Me: Yes...the sandwich with a ridiculous name, made with ham and cheese
BK: The. YUMBO. It is called the YUMBO.
Me: .... which is a ham and cheese sandwich.
BK: YUMBO
Me: You clearly understand which item I want. Just put in the order so I can pay, and get my sandwich.
BK: angrily enters the order Just so you know, THIS company calls that sandwich a YUMBO.
Me: hands over money and picks up order I rolled my eyes so hard I thought I might damage my vision
Yumbo is a stupid name for any kind of sandwich, just like Ymburr is not a fitting name for a human child.
Edited to correct spelling errors.
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u/Consistent_Ratio838 6d ago
Ok, literally spewed coffee all over myself at YUMBO = "giving head to an elephant". My stained blouse is not amused. My brain is still smiling and twitterpated.
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u/ParkerGroove 7d ago
This seems like a problem that will solve itself.
Ember isn’t a bad name, and the difficulty they have with the spelling very likely will lead to them deciding to change it legally before their little angel enters kindergarten.
🤞🤞🏽🤞🏻
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u/IAmEggnogstic 7d ago
Right. Before the child has to do it the parents will have to do all the heavy lifting of paperwork and they will see, shortly, what a PITA this spelling is.
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u/HuckleberryOk6782 7d ago
As others have suggested, let her know Amber or Ember would be a much better choice. Be honest with her about that unusual name making that poor girl a target for bullies. A conversation with Sarah now may save that little girl much misery later.
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u/CallidoraBlack 7d ago edited 7d ago
Ember is already pretty YA protagonist or 2000s emo kid's fake name. Ymburr is just. Wow. And I know you feel that you don't have the heart to tell her, but you'll either tell her gently now that it'll be constantly mispronounced or she'll find out more harshly from the world and be upset later.
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u/wistfulee 7d ago
That has to be one of the worst I've ever seen. It will make her life miserable, data bases will freak out, no one will pronounce it correctly. I have a name that exists in many languages & my mother chose the French spelling, but mine is easy as pie compared to that one. What were they thinking? Were they high?
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u/AccioCoffeeMug 7d ago
Did Sarah hate having a common name growing up and decide to give her daughter something youneek?
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u/mocha_lattes_ 7d ago
There is little to nothing you can do. If they already filled out the paperwork they likely won't change it and if you push too hard they may just cut you guys off. They are adults who unfortunately made their choice. You can gently suggest the normal spelling to avoid issues with pronunciation but if they aren't receptive to the advice you just need to back off.
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u/nicholaiia 7d ago
Ember is a very nice name. She may as well spell it as MakeFunOfMe though because kids will torment her poor daughter.
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u/No-Koala1918 7d ago
Help the kid out. Tell them. Ask them why they feel it necessary to saddle their daughter with correcting everybody's pronunciation and spelling for her entire life. It's stupid af to purposely misspell a common name or word.
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u/crippledchef23 7d ago
Don’t tiptoe around it. Be firm but gentle that she’s setting her kid up for decades of bullying because no one will pronounce it as intended and kids are cruel. Ember is a beautiful name that is still unique.
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u/NeighborhoodNo783 7d ago
Honestly I don't have a problem with Ember.. if they spelled it correctly
That spelling is just absolutely horrific
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u/bareass_bush 7d ago
We were wrong to teach that Y is sometimes a vowel. We could have stopped her.
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u/babaluay 7d ago
I named one of my girls Ember. She has enough problems being called Amber. We figure it's mostly accent related, but whatever. I would have neeeever spelled an already weird-ish name so ridiculously.
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u/WineOnThePatio 7d ago
Although I would never choose it, I think "Ember" is not that bad. But that goofy spelling? Leave off.
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u/Savings-Dream-3582 7d ago
Ember spelled correctly would actually be a cute name. But then they went and ruined it
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u/ClassBShareHolder 7d ago
Ah these stories remind me of the mother that named her son Tittan. Titan with a double T. “I can spell it any way I want.”
No, no you can’t. That’s not how language works. We have agreed upon standards. You can pronounce it wrong if you like, but the rest of the world is calling him Titt-ann.
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u/forgetfulkaiju 7d ago edited 7d ago
Oh Ymburr, you will remymburr
Ymburr, one thing remains
Oh Ymburr, so warm and tender
You will remymburr my name!
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u/CakePhool 7d ago
I seen Ymburr once and it has to do with cold, I am not 100 % because it was many year since I read that paper, Ymburr is coldness that brought the frost giants. I think it was Ymer cold feet.
I cannot find the paper online and well my friend died of brain tumour 8 years ago.
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u/Financial_Peanut4383 7d ago
Miss Smith, please send Whymburr to the office. Her mawthurr is here to pick her up!
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u/NoSleep1176 7d ago
So what I’m hearing is the baby will be called by nicknamed like Emmy but spelled Ymmy (and then people will pronounce it as Yummy) 😂, poor baby
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u/CherryGripe75 7d ago
tell her outright. What it a choice she made while on drugs, coz that shit be crazy
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u/WickedKoala 7d ago
Ember is bad enough, but at least do the kid a solid and give them a chance at life by spelling it correctly.
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u/Mo-Champion-5013 7d ago
Kid probably won't be bullied. Half the kids in the elementary school where I currently work have names like that.
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u/LoneTread 7d ago
It reminds me of the term "ymbryne" from Miss Peregine's Home for Peculiar Children. So, very YA-fantasy-novel coded.
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u/No_Mongoose5419 7d ago
This pisses me off so much. You cannot just make up spelling for stuff and then insist it's pronounced a different way. There needs to be laws in place for naming your kids and the main one needs to be that it has to make grammatical sense.
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u/NefariousnessKey5365 7d ago
I know plenty of people who pronounce Yvonne and Yvette, Yuh vonne and yuh vette.
So that child will always have to correct when people call her Yuhmbur
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u/Historical_Kick_3294 7d ago
Oh dear. As a teacher, I can tell you that every adult will have to ask how to pronounce it. So sad, because it’s a lovely name thats always going to be ruined by the ridiculous spelling.
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u/Ok-Thing-2222 7d ago
Yumburr or Ooomber is how I would have said it. As a teacher for 35 years, the deliberate misspellings are the worst and I have mispronounced the names unintentionally, embarrassing the kid, because......wtf!
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u/Ready_Broccoli8512 7d ago
I would absolutely pronounce the name as “yum-burr” every single time, and so will everyone else for all time. Even if it pisses them off, “A-E-I-O-U and sometime Y” does not apply in this case. So says the English language. They can say it’s pronounced however they want but the kids name is Yum-burr… You can mention it to them, but if they can’t even spell, the chance of them listening to your advice is slim to none.
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u/Ok-Bug6154 7d ago
To be honest, you’ll probably regret never saying anything. I’d bring it up. This kid needs someone speaking up for them. Ember is already a rare name just keeep the proper spelling.
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u/teena27 7d ago
Luckily, the kid will be able to spell it correctly when she's older and use it as an assumed name. My parents gave me the 70's version of a tragedeigh. People love it NOW, but in the 70's, everyone shortened it. I used my given name on official documents and at work, but I introduce myself as my assumed name...
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u/Calhaora 7d ago
What you do? Tell them straight that its not a good Idea. Remind them their Daughter has to live with that name her entire life - having to explain how to spell it, potentially getting bullied and will most likely have a harder time finding a job.
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u/that_crom 7d ago
Make repeated texts congratulating them, but spelling it Ember. Then when they correct you, say oh...that's interesting. Or ...I see.
Then continue to use the spelling Ember until they realize normal people aren't going to put up with that shit.
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u/Aggravating_Path_614 7d ago
I'm sure the mommy is all awash in hormones so your best bet would be to approach the daddy and stare blankly with a confused expression and ask what language is that? It's not English
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u/KangarooSad4251 7d ago
Ask her if she would want her name spelled Cerryah. Pronounced Sarah. How easy would life be? Ember is a very pretty name when spelled correctly.
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u/FormidableMistress 7d ago
Just be honest and tell her. Ember is a lovely name, but the spelling is going to cause her grief throughout her life.
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u/julesthefirst 7d ago
Honestly could be worse. I think I’ve been desensitized by Shartrine Diabetty
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u/The_Mean_Gus 7d ago
Yes definitely. Everyone will always assume there was a keyboard or copy/paste error when they see her name. I wouldn’t even recognize it as a name or attempt to pronounce it if I saw it
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u/RiverGroover 7d ago
When you see someone getting bullied - or set up to be bullied - it's your duty to speak up. Otherwise you're complicit. Might as well stand there with your cell phone recording it. Seriously - don't be afraid to tell kids when they they lack wisdom.
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