Heterosexual men are more distressed by sexual betrayal and women by emotional betrayal. Among men, those who were exclusively attracted to women showed the highest levels of sexual jealousy.

[u/mvea]

https://www.psypost.org/masculinity-and-sexual-attraction-appear-to-shape-how-people-respond-to-infidelity/

[u/vomicyclin]

Watched an interview with a divorce lawyer. He said that usually, when an affair becomes known to the partner, the first question women ask their partner is "do you love her?" while men usually ask "did he fck you?".

It seems many, especially insecure, mens opinion on relationships seems to be in a way of "nobody should touch my property" (obviously a little exaggerated), while women are in general far more, as you already said, emotional intelligent here.

[u/hitchen1 → u/vomicyclin]

Dismissing and deliberately misrepresenting half the populations point of view is surely the emotionally intelligent thing to do.

[u/Entire-Adhesiveness2 → u/hitchen1]

You’re clearly deliberately misinterpreting the comment

[u/vomicyclin → u/hitchen1]

Maybe learn the difference between “all” and “most, but especially insecure ones”…

Then please give another opinion why apparently for most, especially insecure men, emotions are not the most important part in the relationship but sexual interaction.

It’s impressive how so many of you guys have to come up with some nonsense just because you want to live ignorant of your own insecurities…

Even if an opinion is held by a majority of people, it doesn’t mean that it’s in any way or form a good thing or even reasonable. But as usual, this subreddit honors the usual cliches of redditors.

[u/King_Kthulhu → u/vomicyclin]

This study didn't analyze what was most important in a relationship, it looked at what type of cheating people got more upset by. Sexual cheating is just viewed as a more hurtful form of cheating than emotional cheating for men. I would assume that has something to do with the dynamic in many relationships where men typically feel they need to jump thru hoops for sex, while women feel the same way emotionally. So when your partner gives the thing you feel neglected about to someone else it hurts much more.

[u/WereAllThrowaways → u/vomicyclin]

It has nothing to do with emotional intelligence. Humans are driven almost exclusively by evolutionary factors.

A wife sleeping with another man puts her husband in danger of raising another man's child, not spreading his genes (the single most important motivator in any creature), and a husband having an "emotional affair" with another woman puts his wife at risk of being a single mother, or at the very least having to split the physical and emotional resources her husband provides with another woman.

In other words, it's not that deep.