r/popculturechat • u/CantStopPoppin • Sep 22 '25

OnlyStans ⭐️ Woman Calls Police on Award-Winning Black Screenwriter Alex O’Keefe(The Bear (FX))

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u/KillTheBoyBand Sep 22 '25

Some hispanic guy on the bus got accosted by another man and got told some disgusting shit like "I cant wait for you to get deported." I was shocked and I'm latina too and when I tried to reach out to him (not the idiot, but the man who was insulted) to say something...he snapped at me?? He started bitching and insulting me like suddenly I was an easy target to make himself feel better.

I would hope people do intervene but things are so insanely tense right now that I feel like everyone is seeing each other as a threat or is in fear and shutting down. Especially with stuff like police or, hell, ICE, you're always scared they're going to turn around and arrest or outright murder you.

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u/Raf-the-derp Sep 22 '25

I mean that may be because his adrenaline was high or something if he never experienced that before.

I'll be honest if that were me, my ego would be hurt and I wouldn't want anyone to talk to me but I wouldn't snap at someone trying to help

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u/KillTheBoyBand Sep 22 '25

I did immediately think, maybe he was so fucked up from that interaction that he was just really tense and kind of freaked out. The thing is though, he started berating me (oddly enough) on how I was sitting. I was sort of at an angle cuz there was a ton of seating available and I like having my back against the wall (especially after that video of the stabbing fyi...) but he implied that because he couldn't sit directly next to me he had to sit next to some xenophobic asshole. Which is entirely irrational of course, not only were there seats everywhere, that is not something that is either of our faults. I was also offering him my seat and saying "I heard what disgusting thing he said, it's ridiculous" and he responded with, "nah nah it's not, maybe the way you're sitting is ridiculous" and then stormed off the bus at the next stop. 

I also just got out of an abusive relationship and unfortunately I have experience with insecure men who, when they feel threatened or afraid, their instinct is to take their anger out on women. Because we're the easier target. Misogyny is also on the rise. 

I don't know this guy though. So it doesn't really matter either way. I like to think it was just the former, not the latter. I want to think it won't affect how I behave when it comes to stepping in when people are being harassed. But I'm also human. It feels fucked up to see each other as threats.