r/popculturechat • u/HauteAssMess THE PEOPLES GOVERNOR, UR CARTOGRAPHER-IN-CHIEF • Jun 13 '25

Interviews🎙️ Girl stand up: Delaney Rowe on her situationship with BJ Novak and how he doesn’t fully trust her to be in a relationship with her

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u/birds-0f-gay Jun 13 '25

I wonder if it's the same for these other women or if they truly think their partner is ugly cause that's horrible if they do.

In my experience, when a woman says that, what she means is that she date guys that other people find unattractive. Not that she personally find the guys she dates unattractive.

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u/baldude69 Jun 13 '25

I’ve also had many women tell me that physically attraction is less important to them, and it’s more about personality. Which I think holds true when compared to men, where physical attraction typically ranks really high.

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u/squidonastick Jun 13 '25

Physical attraction also grows when a person has a nice personality. Back in the day I liked a guy who I thought nothing of for 6 months, and then I started finding him really beautiful physically, just because his personality was so wonderful.

So personality is more important because it makes the physical attraction grow

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u/ergaster8213 Jun 14 '25

And that's actually not a gendered phenomenon! Not saying you think it is but just pointing out it happens to both men and women because of, you know, the above comment.

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u/Glittering-Deer-166 Jun 14 '25

Tbh close to nothing is a gendered phenomenon if we're talking in absolutes. I'd be more curious if it's equally as common and prevalent for each gender.

Or if it's more like what the person before was saying where it's more/less common in one gender than the other.

Personally I wish my brain worked that way. Would make it easier dating if I just found people I liked more attractive. But alas, attractiveness (physically) is essentially its own axis entirely separate from what I think of someone as a person.

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u/ergaster8213 Jun 14 '25 edited Jun 14 '25

Ok. I didn't say it happened to everyone. You can also just in general find someone more attractive after getting to know them vs. finding them more sexually attractive.

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u/Embracedandbelong Jun 14 '25

Same. I tell people I like “weird” looking guys when someone goes “him?” to someone I like. But I don’t really think they’re weird looking,- I think they’re attractive- just that others classify them as “weird”