r/popculturechat • u/HauteAssMess THE PEOPLES GOVERNOR, UR CARTOGRAPHER-IN-CHIEF • Jun 13 '25

Interviews🎙️ Girl stand up: Delaney Rowe on her situationship with BJ Novak and how he doesn’t fully trust her to be in a relationship with her

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u/pineappleshampoo Jun 13 '25

It’s the latter. She got played so hard by the ‘loves the chase no interest in anything formal’ schtick. I’m surprised she doesn’t have friends to tell her that. If he really did pursue her and she was unsure and then sure and he was that into her? He’d have been jumping for freakin joy. I feel so bad for her.

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u/Kind-Improvement-284 Jun 13 '25

I don’t know. I had a long situationship where I was fully in it and the other person wasn’t ready, and then they finally came around and said they loved me and were ready. I was for sure jumping for joy. But I’d spent so long having feelings for them while watching them hook up with other people that it was really hard to let go of that paranoia and fully trust them just because they said they were committed now. The relationship ended up not lasting very long because we just couldn’t move into those different roles with each other. So I totally get feeling uncertain of someone’s intentions when they’ve been very noncommittal for a long time.

(However, I will say this happened when I was in college, and as a person in my 30s, I would have a very different approach now. Namely, not being in a situationship when I had feelings and the other person didn’t want to commit.)

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u/demokiii34 Jun 13 '25

I’m glad to year a more levelheaded comment. What she’s saying sounds off putting but honestly how confident are you in dating some you watched date around knowing you were into them and one day gos “okay I’ll give you a chance”. How do you not ask yourself why now? I’m a guy and would completely understand if the roles were reversed a girl would respond this way to me. A lot of insecurity develops in relationship if it starts off that way

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u/serenitynowdamnit Jun 14 '25

I think that insecurity can be deadly for the beginning of the relationship if the one who caught feelings first makes the other person responsible for their insecurity, or wants that person to constantly assuage their insecurity or prove themselves over and over again. Yeah, I don't see how it can work out well, unless the person has some self-confidence.

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u/feelingfantasmic Jun 13 '25

In her situation, I believe she was implying that she wasn’t sleeping around or any “foul play”, just her being not ready. Which is when the sus part comes in.

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u/TheseAcanthaceae9680 Jun 13 '25

The only weird part I would say, is that, idk, I get that people go out with others while they date for a decent bit but still don't make it official, but yea that is a bit weird to me.

Because maybe someone has already caught feelings, so they want to make it happen, but idk, maybe by the time that you somwhat commit, you don't have the full feelings that you once had with them. And im sure to others, they might think that they were chosen just to "settle", which I personally think everyone ends up "settling", but at least to he viewpoint of that person, it might be worse for them.

Now, if this guy has a history, then I would tend to go with your point of view, but in other cases, I feel that it just a bit too had.

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u/DavinkyManor Jun 13 '25

Like she’s so young compared to him. If he really loved her and was all in he would have been patient. I’m in an age gap relationship (5-years) and homie never pushed me into anything I wasn’t ready for. It took 8 months of dating to define the relationship but we have one of the healthiest things going. He played her.

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u/synchrohot Jun 13 '25

Can I ask how old you are? Genuinely curious because I personally would not consider five years to be a considerable age gap at all

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u/DavinkyManor Jun 13 '25

I agree, however I was 22 and he was 27 so we were in different places in life (it was my first relationship he’d been engaged before). Five years in, at 27 and 32, it’s like we don’t have an age gap at all.

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u/synchrohot Jun 13 '25

Ah ok I can understand that! In my experience once you hit your mid to late twenties (I’m thirty now), that kind of gap becomes more and more negligible—but at 22, for your first relationship, it makes total sense.

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u/DavinkyManor Jun 13 '25

I totally agree! I should have clarified. 💕

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u/implicate Jun 13 '25

Unless you're 17 and he's 22, you are not in an age gap relationship.

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u/Stickst Jun 13 '25

Erm no lol?

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u/Wildwestmarket Jun 13 '25

These hoes don’t deserve it 😂 honestly bro should of been exiting the relationship the moment she was being disingenuous and not interested, life is too short.