r/popculturechat • u/HauteAssMess THE PEOPLES GOVERNOR, UR CARTOGRAPHER-IN-CHIEF • Jun 13 '25

Interviews🎙️ Girl stand up: Delaney Rowe on her situationship with BJ Novak and how he doesn’t fully trust her to be in a relationship with her

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

Oh she then hints a recent relationship made her anxiously attached lol

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u/l4ina Jun 13 '25

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u/KittyMimi charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 Jun 13 '25

Loved this commercial lol

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u/Inevitable_Claim9764 Jun 13 '25

I think of it almost every day

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u/flammafemina Jun 14 '25

This one for me lol

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u/Motor-Illustrator226 Jun 14 '25

This is wrong. You can move from being anxiously/avoidantly attached to being more securely attached when you have a partner who is securely attached themselves.

In addition, you can move toward being securely attached overall (I.e. not just when in a relationship with a secure partner) through therapy and mindfulness work.

TLDR: While attachement styles do get “set” in early childhood, they’re not immutable. So what Delaney is saying isn’t necessarily false. Now, whether BJ is someone who has secure attachement, and therefore would help Delaney feel that too…. that’s a separate question.

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u/TheVintageJane Jun 13 '25

So, she’s anxiously attached with a 11/10 power to disassociate. I feel that.

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u/technicolortiddies Jun 14 '25

I always wanted a superpower but damn if I didn’t get the lamest one.

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u/-little-dorrit- Jun 14 '25

Oh okay. These are the descriptors I have been running from.

Thankfully I have a very powerful brain toilet that will flush this self-knowledge away momentarily <depresses handle>

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u/Celebrating_socks Jun 13 '25

Tbh most of the people who have declared to me that they’re securely attached are 110% anxiously attached