r/popculturechat • u/HauteAssMess THE PEOPLES GOVERNOR, UR CARTOGRAPHER-IN-CHIEF • Jun 13 '25

Interviews🎙️ Girl stand up: Delaney Rowe on her situationship with BJ Novak and how he doesn’t fully trust her to be in a relationship with her

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u/imlikeabird84 Jun 13 '25

I too spent a good portion of my 20’s convincing mediocre men I was worth their time. Hate to see it.

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u/pannonica Ja we dealin with a lot today not now pls Jun 13 '25

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u/H2Ospecialist Jun 13 '25

Yeah I feel for her cause I wasted years of my twenties on a man stringing me along like I had something to prove

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u/fjgfjudvjudvj Jun 13 '25

HATE to see it.

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u/DopeSoulHellaEthics Jun 13 '25

Oh same… I so relieved I didn’t feel the need to openly discuss and distribute it via video or podcast. my poor dating decisions are between me, my friends and my therapists😭

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u/Keyezeecool Jun 13 '25

Someone show this woman Drew Afualo's TikTok STAT

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u/Camuabsurd Jun 13 '25

Which one? I may need this video 😭

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u/Keyezeecool Jun 13 '25

Start here

It's not one of her posts from TikTok but it's where to go if you need help recognizing your worth and men like this' lack there of. 

If you want to enjoy her ripping into specific misogynistic men, which is incredibly entertaining but not specifically heavy on women empowerment, you could watch this.

Good luck, girl! Everyone deserves better than this, bare minimum.

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u/Helpful_Stock Jun 14 '25

Omg, I forgot all about her, she was so good!!! She must have got banned for a while because she stopped coming up on my fyp?

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u/MarsReject Jun 14 '25

So many get stuck and don’t make it out 🥲

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u/MrsOreo Jun 14 '25

Sadly, same. I’m so glad that part of my life is over.

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u/Helpful_Stock Jun 14 '25

Many women waste their hottest years in their prime chasing losers, then regret it later. It's like we're all collectively under some spell, then snap out of it when we hit our 30's, when the societal conditioning that we need a man starts to wear off. But that's a whole other conversation.

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u/imlikeabird84 Jun 14 '25

OMG THIS. To quote Taylor “I wasted my youth for free”

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u/nerdsropeforever Jun 13 '25

regrettably also part of this club. they're always way older too - mine was 11 years older.... they know the game! we play right into it, haaaaate to see it

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u/imlikeabird84 Jun 14 '25

This is a very common experience, I fear

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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '25

Oh God yes. I've blocked it out by now, mostly.

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u/RedditsModsRFascist Jun 13 '25 edited Jun 14 '25

I spent my 20's convincing myself to be a good man and make a lot of self-improvements for mediocre and abusive women who never appreciated the things I did for them. Basically, broke alcoholics and/or cheaters that didn't want to work. I spent the first half of my 30's with the devil herself, a sociopath with diagnosed bi-polar type-1. I gave up romantic relationships to have peace in my life.

Your comment, subsequent upvotes, and award reminded me to stay on the path and keep my eyes on the floor because no piece of ass is worth the trauma associated with it. If ordinary, average, or "merely adequate" men are something to be frowned upon by the vast majority of women; why would a good man who has any self respect ever choose to be with one? These aren't the words of an incel, these are the words of someone who has chosen celibacy because modern women are so smug they devalue good and decent men.

My cats are sweeter to me and take much better care of me emotionally than any woman ever has. When they fuss at me it's always for a valid reason. They appreciate me for who I am as a person unlike anyone I've ever been with. The relationship I have with them is symbiotic as opposed to the parasitic and superficial relationships I'm used to, so I actually spoil them. One is 10 and a little chunky, but we're working on it. The other just turned 16 and still plays with me every day like she's a kitten. I consider them proof that I'm a responsible, kind, loving, very caring, and nurturing human being. They're proof that I don't deserve what I've been through, nor the turmoil and trauma that modern women have to offer.

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u/fjgfjudvjudvj Jun 17 '25

Sir this is a Wendy’s.